My story

[FRJ07]

So here's my story, I been with this girl for almost 5 years. It all started off perfect and everything went well. We had our ups and downs but 1 year ago everything changed. She called me one day saying she wanted to break up that she met someone else. I felt destroyed cuz I love this girl with every inch of my body. I didn't know what to do at first then I finally adapt to the fact that she was gone. I started moving on and 2 months after I met this other girl. N when my ex found out she did everything she could to get me back. She would say she loved me n she was sorry she left and wanted me back. I still loved her so we decided to get back again. Now 1 year after everything was good up until today. She texted me saying she wanted to take a break. She says she truly loves me and she just needs to catch up with her school work and talking to me is a distraction.. I need some advice on what to do now. As I promised myself if we ever let go again I wouldn't take her back. I feel like she's not taking our relationship serious. & on the other hand I was getting ready to ask her to marry me in a couple of months. Idk what to do. She's like the complete opposite of me when it comes to social life. She likes clubbing and raves and all that stuff. I've tried telling her that I would go with her n all she says is no cux it'll be weird. I tried talking to her about it and she just says that she wants to have fun and she doesn't want me to lock her in.. We hardly ever spend time now a days because shes always *busy *with her friends or with her sisters. Our intimacy has been bad 2. We have sex maybe 2times a month, and Thers times I will try to have sex with her and she doesn't want 2. She doesn't even like coming to my house anymore because she straight out said she didn't want to have sex. I love this girl but deep down I ask myself if she's the right one. She does tell me she wants to marry me and stay with me for the rest of her life, that shes nothing without me.Any advice on what to do? I mean I really love her and I'm willing to fight and defend our love but is it worth it?*

[searock]

Whether it's worth it or not is entirely up to you to decide.

I think you are incompatible under many aspects, and you're right, she doesn't take the relationship seriously. The fact that she started begging to have you back only after she knew that you were dating another girl implies that she is insecure and needy - she couldn't stand the thought of herself not being the center of your attention/love anymore. She makes up excuses not to see you, doesn't want to have sex as often as you do, doesn't want you to go clubbing with her... she doesn't seem to be in love with you.

Do you want to be in this kind of relationship?

[HeartIsAching]

So here's my story, I been with this girl for almost 5 years. It all started off perfect and everything went well. We had our ups and downs but 1 year ago everything changed. She called me one day saying she wanted to break up that she met someone else.

Ok, so she's a cheater.

I felt destroyed cuz I love this girl with every inch of my body. I didn't know what to do at first then I finally adapt to the fact that she was gone. I started moving on and 2 months after I met this other girl. N when my ex found out she did everything she could to get me back. She would say she loved me n she was sorry she left and wanted me back.

And an attention whore.

I still loved her so we decided to get back again. Now 1 year after everything was good up until today. She texted me saying she wanted to take a break. She says she truly loves me and she just needs to catch up with her school work and talking to me is a distraction.. I need some advice on what to do now. As I promised myself if we ever let go again I wouldn't take her back.

You shouldn't.

I feel like she's not taking our relationship serious.

She isn't.

& on the other hand I was getting ready to ask her to marry me in a couple of months. Idk what to do.

Oh hell no.

She's like the complete opposite of me when it comes to social life. She likes clubbing and raves and all that stuff. I've tried telling her that I would go with her n all she says is no cux it'll be weird. I tried talking to her about it and she just says that she wants to have fun and she doesn't want me to lock her in..

That's because she's out screwing around on you and doesn't want you to interfere.

We hardly ever spend time now a days because shes always *busy *with her friends or with her sisters. Our intimacy has been bad 2. We have sex maybe 2times a month, and Thers times I will try to have sex with her and she doesn't want 2. She doesn't even like coming to my house anymore because she straight out said she didn't want to have sex. I love this girl but deep down I ask myself if she's the right one. She does tell me she wants to marry me and stay with me for the rest of her life, that shes nothing without me.Any advice on what to do? I mean I really love her and I'm willing to fight and defend our love but is it worth it?*

She's getting plenty elsewhere. I'd lay money on it.

[steviej]

I'll keep it simple. ^There is your answer!