Some advice ...

[cammieshanks]

I am in a relationship pretty much messed up(where there is no intimacy at all due to his health issues) but I have started to mess around with an old friend whom I have had on and off 'situations' before... He is the one that started this last time and I am very very confused .. He says he misses me and sometimes not and that sometimes he doesn't want to miss me .... when we are together it is just amazing... Since we both work a lot it is a bit difficult to see each other and I feel that I am the only one making an effort to meet.. he kan get upset if I push too much but all of a sudden he acts like I am th eonly person in the world, and then backs off again...
I dunno what to believe or think or anything at that point.....

[tbell760]

Some guys are really good at temporarily making a girl feel happy. I have this ability, but i do not use it. This new guy your seeing seems like thats exactly what he is doing. It seems like he knows he is in command and he is just getting what he wants from you. What i recommend to you at this point is to take some time to think which path you would benefit more from. Your current relationship or the other guy, try to find out what you think will be better fit and approach them head on. Say something like "You play these mind games on me i don't know what you want so please tell me." Something like that, He will either make it or break it but it will show you what you are truly in his eyes. Hope this helped

[searock]

Why are you still in that messed up relationship?? Break up, then you can think about whoever you want.

[cammieshanks]

Because I do love this person but I need intimacy and physic contact which is impossible .. one night stands don't work for me....
I can't explain how I feel , I can't quit seeing nr 2 but I feel abandoned and used at the same time andnot worthy but the minute he talks to me ot touches me I melt ....

[Fruitsss]

I think u r in a mess that u created for yourself.
cause as a grown up adult u know that relationships can have rocky times.
and tht u suppose to deal with it and if its not a healthy relationship u should break up.

so why mess with other dudes while u barely can handle the one u have .
why not end it and then move on?

u create your own mess so why acting like it just happen to u?!

[helpingboy]

I have been in the real same situation as you are. Just dont think much about any problem if its really amazing when you are together . go for those " on and off moments" if you fell good in those situations. Dont think much whether only you are making an effort, because if he is showing up he is certainly making an effort.

Boys sometimes change minds and say that they dont miss a girl, but let me tell you if they are romancing you take it is a very sure indication that they are into no matter what. If he romances you, you have a kind of right to ask him to do things the way you like and he is bound to agree.