What do you guys think?

[phoenix90]

I'm 22 and he's almost 26. So I've been dating this guy for almost 3 years now, and last year we moved in together. We lived together for almost a year until about a month ago he got really mad and fed up because he was tired of me asking him to smoke outside (something that was discussed and promised before we moved in together), and how I apparently never do anything around the house (not true, but w/e). He said he hated living with me and asked me to leave, but still wanted to stay boyfriend/girlfriend. I moved back in with my parents and we still talk on the phone, and I still visit him a few times a week and things are going pretty okay.

A few days ago he says that he really misses me and wants me to move back in. I told him I'd think about it, because I didn't know what would change about him hating living with me. Last night I went to visit him and his friend decided to pop by and linger for about two hours while they both chain smoked (I have asthma and when people are smoking around me it's kind of hard to breathe, my bf knows this). I was pretty much ignored as they were both talking about work (they have the same job) and different computer codes they use; I had absolutely nothing to add to the conversation.

After his friend FINALLY left we finished watching our movie and went to bed. Maybe he caught on that I was a little upset I don't know but his demeanor changed. The next morning before he left for work he seemed kind of irritated that I was there. We talked about the night and seemed to have worked it out. I talked to him on the phone about an hour ago and he cut the convo short to go smoke a joint.

I guess my question is: Is it so crazy that I wanted my bf to ask his friend to leave and maybe come back the next day? Since we only hang out a couple times a week and he supposedly misses me so much, I kind of consider our hangouts as 'dates'. Any advice about anything would be helpful.

Thanks

[PurleaseeeeeGF]

He has to stop smoking, or you have to start, otherwise its doomed. Using the asthma as an excuse is lame. I've had asthma for years and I get through 20 a day, no problem. Smoking is cool as ****, I bet you have'nt even tried it.

[theone11]

This is easy. Pull back and let him chase you. Be unavailable to him. So your back at your parents, go out some nights with your girlfriends dont text call as often and let him initaite. If he feels he is losing you he will change his tune pretty fast. Agree that you should stay at your parents now and act like its all good, that you need the space because you dont know if this relationship is working. Act like you are doubting it. Watch him do a 180 in a hurry. Dont cave in too fast or he will know it was just a game.

[AnnonymousMan]

This guy seems like he enjoys doing whatever the **** he wants when he wants like a spoiled child. You demands of him are not wrong nor to high. He needs to grow the **** up. Sit him down and tell him outright that he needs to grow the **** up and be a man or you are leaving him to go find one. Now that you have left he might be using you as some side booty while he does whatever he wants and looks for another chick. Guys like this piss me off. You cannot have half the package.

Or as the post above recommends, detach from him and let him chase you. This can backfire though because since this dude kicked you out it seems he doesn't care to do any chasing.