I met a man online a year ago and we hit it off but it didn't work out. He was in an on/off relationship and after he broke up with his gf (before we met), she went psycho bitch and threatened to kill herself. I didn't want to get involved with that kind of drama so I backed off.
About a month ago, I noticed that he was single again and, interested in at least being friends (most of mine have moved away after graduation...), I decided to say hello. We talked for a while but I got the distinct feeling that I was doing most of the work so I backed off again. I simply stopped texting and moved on.
About two weeks later, he randomly texted me with "hey" so we started talking again. Now, for the problem...
I'd like to see him but I'm currently out of state visiting my family. They drive me crazy so after over a week home, it wouldn't kill me to go back but I'm not rushing back just to sit there with nothing to do. Communication with him has been sort of spotty and I'm not sure what to think...
- When I told him that I might move to the west coast, he responded " that's so far away". I asked why he was sad and he said, " because i'll miss you".
- He's always been kindhearted, shy, and polite. He's definitely not a mean person.
- We were supposed to hang out before I left but he never got back to me. He apologized saying he fell asleep which is plausible because he works at night and sleeps during the day. I had already asked him if he would be okay hanging out and he said yes so maybe he just bit off more than he could chew that day. Doesn't mean I'm not still suspicious although I'll admit, I've been treated kinda badly in the past so I might be a bit paranoid...
- His FB status says single and his ex is no longer on his friend's list; she hasn't been since before he and I reconnected. He did tell me, however, that she was wanting him back - after leaving him for someone else. At least he seems to be resisting which is good, not for "us" but for himself. Regardless of what happens with him, I'd like to see him happy and she makes him miserable.
- I have almost no way of reaching him; my parents don't get cell service, he claims he doesn't use FB almost ever, he doesn't have an IM client, and his phone is supposedly not working right. He claims no one can hear him but that is also a known issue with my parents' phone so I assumed the technical issue was on my end. What are the chances that the problem is on both?...
- When I asked if he talks on the phone much, he said "sometimes but i'd make an exception for you".
- Before I found out about psycho ex, I sent him a friend invite on FB a year ago. He never accepted it but I later assumed that it was because of his on/off girlfriend. It was still sitting there until recently, when I cancelled it and resent it just to see how he'd react in case he'd hit ignore before and forgot it. I figure if he logs in and still doesn't accept it, I've got a pretty good idea of where I stand - on the sidelines because he's still not ready to move on.
- He was on FB almost 24 hours ago so it's not like he's never on and I told him I'd like to have someone to talk to but I still haven't heard from him outside of texts.
At this point, I can't tell if I've become cynical or if I'm wasting my time again...