He mucks up my head!! please help me!!

[stardust]

Hey all.
Me and my ex were together for 3 years and broke up nearly 6 months ago. It has hurt like mad and im finally getting it together. I accepted seeing him at partys getting it on with tarts etc but I ignored it.
Then yesterday at a party he told me he stil loves me so much and that he misses me, and that one day he knows hes going to regret his descision to not be with me cus im no lovely etc.
Why does he feel like this yet doesnt want to be with me? Its hurting me so much that he loves me but doesnt want us to persue our 3 year relationship.
He says right now he just wants to be single. What should i feel? why is he doing this? why cant he just not love me as much as i love him!!! id like to hear your views and opinions on my ex! thanks

[artyemi]

hi stardust... here's a pat on your back..

i don't know why he's saying these things to you, and it sure as hell ain't helping you in your healing process.

don't worry about what he's saying to you and what he's feeling. a lot of times, people do feel these things, but they are just the leftover of the relationship. Or maybe other things. We could work on all sorts of theories for whys and never come to a conclusion.
Instead of concentrating on that, you should concentrate on making yourself happy, and getting better. SO get out there and find something else to concentrate on.

[ghenzmitz]

Nah, I Really Think....boys Are Very...good Players In The World Of Love....don't Get Fooled..he's Fooling You I Tell You, Because Most Boys I Have Known Are Really Players.....they Say Things That He Loves You Because He Doesn't Want You To Get Hurt.....more.....so Just Forget Him...enjoy Your Freedom.......he Doesn't Deserve You

[stardust]

cheers guys. Your right. Well the lates is hes getting ittogether with one of mates! so he must be a total waste of space eh!

[toto]

Hey Stardust,

Thanks for your post, so thought id give you my opinion.

It seem to me that he isnt treating you right. So why would you go back to some one who treats you like that. Artyemis' right, if hes ended it, hes lost you! the best thing you can do is let him know that by improving your life and exclude him. When my last relationship ended i worked out more, got stuck into uni and kept my self busy by getting a new job and made new friends. This not only made me feel better and kept my mine off her but when out with a load staff mates she was there with just one of her mates. It showed her i wasnt going to sit around and wait for her even though she knew i was in bits after the break up.

So what im saying is focus on you. You said its been 6 months. Dont go undoing all that hard work Remember all his bad points, that alway helps.

Good luck honey xXx

[stardust]

aww cheers toto!thats good advice! well i was out the other night and there he was getting it on with a mate of mine! hand up her skirt and everything! what a complete jerk! so yep ive realised i do deserve better and well seeing that finally closes the door on that chapter of my life! thanks for your advice, and all the best with the meet up wiv ur ex! argh!! lol! x x

[mhussain]

best of luck

Hussain

[spunkyk77]

i'm in the exact same position stardust...my ex keeps messing with my head. he tells me he wants me back but doesn't. all i know he's not going to move mountains to get me back quoting from "he's just not that into you" and that's enough proof to move on for me. a little less talk a little more action.

what i did was write down reasons why i should never go back to him at point 89 i decided that was enough reason :-)

[stardust]

Lol that was exactly what I did! i wrote down alot of reasons too! Life deep down is better than being with a guy who doesnt anymore seem to know what im worth! M aybe alot of lads get confused. I think my ex just wants to enjoy the single life. One day he'll regret it (I hope! because secretly then I'll feel better!!) and I wont be there for him! thanks for the advice people! x all the best!