how do i react back to hot & cold treament

[help_me]

This guy used to be my college mate (now he is in his early 30s and me in late 20s). After college we stayed in touch and recently after a meet up we became quite close and the frequency of interaction increased (we both stay in different countries). Initially he expressed his interest in me, but i declined (coz things moved on too fast). With time, when i came to know him better, i developed feelings for him and now he declined my advances. During once such meetings he confessed his love for me, but wasn't ready for a committed relationship and wants to concentrate completely on his career(which didn’t make any sense to me). I decided to back out and move ahead but he won't let me do that either (somehow he will try to get back in touch)...In the end he wants to be in touch but not committed. i have no issues being frndz with him. When i pull back he will get all romantic and playful. If i reply back he gets defensive. His hot and cold treatment drives me crazy at times. guys i am asking what sud i do here.

[HeartIsAching]

Tell him to **** off until he figures out what he wants.

[Fruitsss]

I think you need to blame yourself. u teach people how to treat u most of the time

If u are a insecure person guys like that enjoy that.
Cause i dont see why u dont have your own opinion. instead of reacting the way he treats u.

If u dont like hot and cold tell him and back off and move on to find someone serious.
Instead of acting innocent and keep entertaining his behavior.

[pkumar]

i would advice you to be very clear about what you want and let him know your feelings. There is no point continuing like this.