Hi there,
My girlfriend was talking about her ex the other day, I really didn`t want to know or ask but she was talking to me and it really made me feel uneasy. Her ex boyfriend was 39 years old, and she was only 18, he was her first boyfriend and he had been married twice both ending in divorce ( he never told her about the 2nd one ) and he had 4 children, 1 of whom was the same age as her at 18. I found this very strange as 18 year olds are still very young and have years to go before I would really consider them to be adults, I am 28 years of age btw and I could never date anyone under 21 if I`m honest.
Anyway I was disturbed by the way he was treating her as well, he was her first boyfriend after all, she moved in with him and lived there for 4 years, she was very inexperienced and within a few months he was getting her involved in having anal sex with him and she now tells me she feels she might have been damaged by this and is no longer willing to participate in it. I felt terrible and felt like she has been used by this much older man and led down a bad road. He was arguing with her quite a lot and had her in tears a lot of the time according to her parents who were always against the relationship but as she had moved out there was nothing they could do. I am very disappointed in her for allowing it to happen and to go on as long as it did and we do get on great, we`ve been together over 6 months I just feel really sick by this all and it`s probably because I care a lot about her!
What do you guys/gals think about this? What would be a good way to move forward and try and not think about this?
Thanks.