Hi,
My girlfriend and I have been going out for 4 and have been living together for the last year. I recently finished my degree and accepted a job offer where I am required to move away, but my girlfriend still has one year of uni left. My job starts with a two year placement where I am required to move up to three times and at the moment I only know that the first location I have to move to is about 1.5 hours away (by plane) more like 12 by car. The job sounds like a really good program and also pays well for a recent grad.
I am moving to my first placement next month and I feel really bad now. I have spoken to my girlfriend previously about this and she says she will miss me for the first year but that when she finishes her degree she will follow me to where the job takes me and we can figure out stuff then. She has worked very hard to get her degree, just as much as me, and whilst I am happy she is willing to do that I hate to think that I am making her give up the possibility of working where we currently live, where all her family and friends are.
I did a quick google of other people in similar situations and it freaked me out because lots of people seem to break up over this sort of thing - moving for jobs etc. I guess I am really worried about what effect this is going to have on our relationship because I really do love her more than anything and we have spoken about marriage etc before (down the track). I also mentioned this to my girlfriend and she said it might be hard to be away from each other for a while but we can make it.
This turned into more of a shambled mess than an organised post, but I would kinda like some advice. My girlfriend is obviously really supportive but I don't want to jeopardise what we have together. I can always try out the job and If we decide it's hurting our relationship I would quit. Or I could always drop the job now, before I even move and look for another position in this area. Really any advice would be great.
Thanks