Hi all, 1st post, please go easy on me.
Me and my partner started living together 8 months ago, I didn't think it would last but we made it work and get along great together. About a month ago I had to move overseas for work (up to 12months), bad timing... I'm ok with it but my partner is having a harder time adjusting to it than I am.
She's working a 12hr job 5 days a week. I know this is really tough on her since I always had way more spare time working a 9-5 job, once we moved in together, usually I did the cooking & cleaning and made sure she looked after herself.
We Skype every evening or 2nd evening. She's feeling depressed and a little demotivated. During the last month, she hasn't been taking care of herself and tonight I got particularly frustrated and trying to decide if I should have a talk with her about it tomorrow but stop me if I'm being unreasonable.
Since she gets home late everyday she hasn't got the time to cook. Often eats fast food, which is unavoidable. Luckily we both have quick metabolisms and don't gain weight very easily so the junk food doesn't worry me.
What does bother me is the fact she's demotivated and isn't taking care of herself. She has a habit of getting home and just crashing. When I was around I made sure we both ate well, cleaned ourselves up before bed etc. Last night on Skype we talked for a bit while she was eating. As soon as she finished she just dozed off, left all the lights, the TV, her makeup on and I'm hoping she at least took her contacts out (I've heard it's bad for your eyes if you don't? I don't wear glasses so no idea.)
I know working long 9-9 shifts (sometimes more) is really tough and I can't blame her for being lazy. However she can't be bothered doing anything before bed, I think she should at least take off the contacts and brush before sleeping. Ideally do the other things too like turn off the lights and TV which doesn't take much effort at all.
Last time I said something she got teary eyed and said it's because I'm not around anymore but she'll try and take better care of herself. Not sure if I'm being unfair, should I bring this up with her again?
Thanks for reading