Ok so since I broke up with my ex and stopped whining about him on here 2 years ago I have come back recently to try to help people and give advice based on experiences I've had, whether they've been good, bad, stupid, etc. Well I am usually good at reading situations and helping others, but sometimes I can't listen to my own advice. Something so stupid happened to me and I just had to come here to vent about it, so feel free to tell me what an idiot I am or give your opinions since I've certainly done my fair share of that. I made a post relating to this a couple weeks ago but things in the story have developed since then.
To sum things up, after my ex dumped me I quickly had a rebound fling with a bartender I met. I thought it would be a one time thing but ended up lasting a few months. When we 1st hooked up he told me he was single, I had no reason to believe he wasn't, found out he was in fact in a long distance relationship with some girl but it was on its way out. I didn't hang out with him again until they had broken up. We hooked up again for a few months and it was a FWB type situation which I was ok with until I started stupidly developing feelings for this egotistical ass. A few months down the line he started dating someone new, he randomly disappeared and I only found out why when one of my friends saw something on Facebook about it. So stupid. I was upset and got over it, I wasn't going to deal with that nonsense. A couple months later he started texting me again, but by this time I had deleted his number and didn't want to get involved. I tried ignoring him and telling him I wasn't going to help him cheat on his girlfriend, but he kept persisting to the point where I actually had his number blocked. We didn't see each other for about a year, and I had pretty much forgotten about him completely.
This past summer I dated a couple guys, but none of them turned into anything serious. I heard through the grapevine that he was single again and decided to unblock his number (what a bad idea). He immediately answered and said he had been trying to get in touch with me forever, was wondering why I never returned his calls or texts and wanted to hang out. He also said he was single again, and for some idiotic reason I decided to hang out with him again. The only really good thing about this guy was the sex... we had amazing, awesome sex and I think through that I developed feelings for him, because his personality sucks. Anyways we hung out and I was just gonna hook up and leave but he started all this babble about how he always liked me, he made bad choices in the past but was upset when I stopped talking to him, he had been a jerk, he wanted to give "us" a try. I was shocked and kind of weirded out by this, so much time had gone by and my feelings for him were completely gone. I said there was no way I could ever trust him seeing as he cheated on past girlfriends with me and I wasn't in any position to be in a relationship just then. So since then, we had been hooking up from August til the beginning of January.
In the past when we hooked up I would basically go over there, have sex and leave. But in recent months we would actually hang out, watch movies, get food together, go places, etc. I suppose through this, the sex, and the fact that I had feelings for him in the past I kind of developed them back again. We wouldn't really talk on a daily basis, basically only when we wanted to hang out, but this went on a few times a week. I hung out with him on New Year's and that was the last time I saw him. He texted me a couple weeks ago asking for a ride home from the hospital but I was working and couldn't help him out, and that was the last we spoke. Then he went MIA. I figured he had been talking to someone else and was seeing someone else, because this is exactly how it happened in the past, and today a friend of mine confirmed that. I don't know why, but I felt a slap in the face when she told me. I'm not trying to be conceited or anything, but this girl is not pretty at all... maybe she is a nice person, but seeing the type of person he is I'm surprised he would go for someone like her. But that's beside the point.
I know I'm an idiot for getting involved with him in the first place and even more stupid for going BACK to him despite everything that happened. I don't know wtf it is about this guy that kept me coming back. He was narcissistic, egotistical, cocky, an all around jerk, and had a major alcohol problem. He is not someone I would ever want to date seriously or spend the rest of my life with. But there were little things I liked about him and I guess through spending so much time with him I developed feelings. If someone wrote a post like this I would tell them they should have seen it coming, that I was just a f*ck buddy and should have seen this coming a mile away, but I guess when it comes to myself I lose my senses. I am usually so picky with guys and know what I want out of them, but for some reason I let this asshole walk all over me and play stupid mind games. I haven't talked to him weeks and deleted his number but I still feel like a moron for going back to him and letting this happen to me again! I guess I just needed to vent and felt this was the place to do it... I'm willing to take any shit talking that you guys may have regarding this hahaha ;]