What to do?

**Somedude25** · 09-02-13, 11:58 PM

SSo I met this girl about a year ago. I right away we knew we liked each other, after about a month of hanging out she dumped her bf to be with me. We were doing great and I moved in with her after a few months, we never had any real big arguments and we pretty much saw each other and talked every day. Meanwhile she still kept in contact with her ex. Well after about 8 months she found out her ex (that she left for me) was starting to see another girl... Immediately I knew her attention focused to him and she knew she still had feelings for him. She pretty much slowly ended things with me and has no desire to see me or talk to me anymore (still txts every day but not as much) . I know she txts him all the time and go s over there quite a bit. It's been about a month since this happened and a big problem is I can't afford to move out atm so we're both in different rooms. The other day she was home for a bit and started crying and said she missed me, then left. I want her back but what do I do.

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 12:19 AM

Its wrong the way she has been treating you. It sounds like she doesn't know what she wants and is keeping her options open. If you take her back she will probably do the same thing again to you either with him or someone else. She probably has insecurity issues or is just downright immature. I think you should forger her, focus on yourself and concentrate on trying to move out. Then go no contact and try to get her out of your head. People like her are never worth it

**Somedude25** · 10-02-13, 12:39 AM

I know I'm kind of looking at it from a different perspective because she ended it with me for no reason and all I can think about is getting her back and the times we had.

**Somedude25** · 10-02-13, 03:25 AM

Thanks for the advice btw.... Any other opinions out there?

**Tgirl** · 10-02-13, 03:46 AM

Sometimes people love a little bit of competition, and there is something calles ironies of life, where people will always want what they think they cant have, to me it seems like this gal want a little bit of ego boost, she just wana see if she matters to his ex by trying to compete with the new girl, thats downright stupid and imarture, thus Im not saying what she is doing is right because it isnt, it has to do with how we as people are wired, even though I broken it off with my ex's I dont celebrate at the thought of knowing that they are moving on with other people, even though I know I dont want them but the difference is that I never go and pursue them

I do believe that she loves you but just too imarture to know what she wants otherwise she wouldnt have left the ex for you, I agree with the previous post that you need to move out, focus on yourself and move on with your life, she is not worthy it, she is waste of time and energy or you can also make her jelous by finding someone else, LOL

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 04:26 AM

She is one of those people who always thinks the grass is greener somewhere else. Its classic low self esteem, insecurity, attention seeking behaviour.. She will destroy you eventually if you take her back. People like that rnd up getting married and divorced 3times. They also cheat, lie, sneak around, have an affaie etc.

Your better off finding someone confident who wont take you for granted. She probably wants 2 or 5 or even 10 lads fighting over her to make her feel like shes something special. She also probably sees every pretty girl as a threat and will go after taken ot married men etc.
Think im exaggerating? Come back and see what shes like in ten years time. Ull be glad u got away

**Somedude25** · 10-02-13, 05:39 AM

Thanks for the input everyone. I just don't see how someone can be with you then leave in a matter of days for no reason. No matter how nice she was about the breakup

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 05:48 AM

You just need to try and pick yourself up from this. Itl take time and it will hurt for awhile but youl end up stronger, mlre confident and itl help you figure out next time what you want in a girl. Just learn from this and move on. Find yourself someone confident with high self esteem next time

**rob1984** · 10-02-13, 05:49 AM

There's a upside and downside..

upside.. she did you a favour otherwise you potentially been with her way longer and this happening later on.
downside... its kinda Karma, right.. you went for a girl who had a BF.. you showed her no respect.. and she left him for you.. cause she wanted to feel infatuated again.. when she still had feelings for her bf.. her leaving was a favour to you and hopefully a lesson for the future. so an upside in there as well lol

being a homewrecker is allowed.. if she gets abused verbally.. gets assaulted or raped by her man.. otherwise boundaries need to be respected.

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 05:52 AM

Ya you should stay clear of anyone who just got out of a relationship otherwise ur just a rebound

**Somedude25** · 10-02-13, 06:03 AM

What should I do now then since I still live with her? Be nice, an asshole?

**rob1984** · 10-02-13, 06:19 AM

if its your place.. kick her out, if its her's move.

find a roommate if you cannot afford to live alone.. or stay in your seperate rooms then, break up..get confident and start dating.. since its your place as well.. start bringing girls over.. why not.

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 06:26 AM

Dont be an asshole, just ignore her and be civil if u have to talk to her. Try to find a room mate and move out asap. Then take some time out to heal and when your ready you can meet someone else. Dont even bother trying to make her jealous-be the bigger person and just let her go. U can do better

**Somedude25** · 10-02-13, 09:11 AM

Should I keep in contact with her as friends or just go nc?

**michelle23** · 10-02-13, 09:31 AM

I think no contact is best-otherwise you are just clinging on hoping for more. You need to accept its over and deal with the pain head on so you can heal.

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