Sickly feeling

[Matt150]

Ok, so me an my girlfriend have been going out for 7 years. The past 3 months I've felt like she's been too distant an shes felt like I've been too intense.

She's now living with her dad, an has been for a month.

Problem is we both keep trying to mend the relationship but can't.

We both get this sickly feeling when were around each other.

Were both trying to make this work. Please help

[Boisdevie]

Problem is we both keep trying to mend the relationship but can't.

Well then it's over isn't it? I don't now what kind of help you expect us to be able to give. There is no golden rule that says a relationship will last forever. Sometimes it goes tits up. Accept this. You survived without her before you met and I'm pretty sure you'll survive afterwards. Plenty more ladies out there.

[basilandthyme]

If neither of you are happy with the other anymore, why are you trying to make the relationship work? (not a rhetorical question) Is it because there are children involved?

[Wakeup]

We both get this sickly feeling when were around each other.

Thats your gut trying to tell you to end it and don't look back.

[Matt150]

Is it because there are children involved?

No children not married. We're both young. She's 23 I'm 24.
She's been with me since she was 16 I'm her first proper boyfriend. I'm attached to her because she an her family are a good laugh an make me happy.

I haven't got much of a family so if I lose her I lose the family too.

We both really want it to work.

I guess if we were to get through this it would make us a stronger couple

[Wakeup]

So... if you both want it to work so badly then why is your gut trying to warn you against being with her? .. and .. why haven't you looked in to couples councelling... This won't make you a stronger couple if you just keep doing what you've always done.

[michelle23]

Go for counselling. That sickly feeling could just be a fear of losing each other or of change

[pcmaster]

Spend some days at the sea if you can. I believe the place can heal the soul. The girls like me so much better after getting some tan at seaside in weekends and it so much easier and natural to progress with them afterwards.

Seriously if you thing of it that theres all the 4 elements a living thing needs: water(sea) air(fresh air from sea) earth(sand) fire(sun) than lastly the fifth element(love) comes easy when you have these four.

[toknow]

Could be you are having a gut feeling of what's to come. Scared the relationship will soon end. That could be a bad premonition.

[basilandthyme]

I don't believe in counselling for couples who aren't married. If things are so pearshaped that you can't make it to the alter without help, then you shouldn't be getting married.

Dating is about finding Mr or Ms Perfect. It's not about trying to make a broken relationship work.

[Boisdevie]

I haven't got much of a family so if I lose her I lose the family too.

We both really want it to work.

I guess if we were to get through this it would make us a stronger couple

1. You lose her family. Well tough titty, that's how it goes.
2. You want it to work. Well you've already said it's not working so how long are you going to continue beating this dead horse?
3. Getting through it would make you stronger. Bullsh.it. You're in denial.

Just stop wasting your time and end this crappy relationship. Or accept the crap and stop complaining to us. Pathetic.