I'm so confused and hurt, breakup advice?

[Kayden]

Please hear me out. I've only been with this girl for 8 months, we're both 19, we were our first times, the relationship always felt perfect except for a few arguments and little affairs, no matter how bad we always got back together and picked up the pieces and got back together even stronger.

So then I was away from home for a week to do some work, my ex was missing me and I'd contact her. When I finally got back she had to go back to her hometown for Chinese New Year. I was wondering why she isn't contacting me as much as she used to. I looked into her Facebook and found out she had her phone with her a lot. Out of curiousity I hacked into her Facebook and I found out she was actually talking to another guy. Prior to this my ex and I had an argument and she was losing confidence as she said. But I wouldn't think she'd let go if it wasn't for that guy.

The guy was persuading her to let go of me. He clearly took advantage of her broken state, she asked the guy that I asked for a chance and the guy said "I'd be the most stupidest person if I say you should." He goes on about telling her to cut contact with me and there are plenty of fishes in sea. And in the end of the shite painful conversation he comes up saying he likes her. This guy is much older (26) and studies abroad. He's never been in a committed relationship in his life.

So my ex ended up blocking me on Facebook and BARELY replying my texts. She doesn't even pick up my calls. It was just too hard for me to accept the reality. I felt so weak. Then on midnight I decided to just let it go (Although I still am trying here) and texted her a farewell and wished her good luck, a goodbye basically. She suddenly texted a long message saying how I'm a wonderful person and all this was her fault. She says she'd keep me in her heart and she still wants to be friends with me. So it was a little confusing I thought she'd cut contact with me, but she's talking to me so happy and casual. Is this her trying to make me feel better? Because while it is, it really isn't. I still love this girl deep down my heart, we've been through so much that a typical couple would've broke off but we always managed to pull through. What should I do? I really wanna take my chances again.

[basilandthyme]

The thing about being friends is partly to make you feel better and partly because she doesn't want to completely say goodbye. But either way, she's done with the relationship.

My best advice is to remove her from your life. Block her FB and delete her number. The longer you go without contact, the quicker you'll heal. And if she begs you to stay friends, tell her you can't.

[Kayden]

I'll try to do that. It's really really just so hard for me to. I don't know why but I always have a feeling in me that there is a chance, as stupid as it sounds.
Its just so hard to not think about the things we did together. I'm not used to not waking up to her early morning messages and what not.

[michelle23]

affairs, cheating, lies, hurt, anger, pain. You both have A LOT of growing up to do before your ready for an actual relationship. Stay away from girls until you develop more self respect and more respect for women. I didn't even bother reading the whole post as this info stood out to me and I dont usually give advice when two people should clearly not be together.