How to go from conservative to sexy.

[B's Angel]

Ok so here is my situation, I am 31 and a mother of 2. I had been single for 6 years before my fiance and I got together. The thing is that I am really conservative well more like embarrassed about myself and my body. Our sex life is wonderful, but he is into things that I am just either too embarrassed to do or to uncomfortable to do. Some of the stuff is just me being embarrassed about my body, like the sexy lingerie and then having sex with the lights on. But then there are things like positions and anal sex that I am just not comfortable with. I really really want to be more open and loosen up, but I just don't know how (except for the anal, that just freaks me out!) He watchs a lot of porn and has his magazines and I feel like nothing compared to the women in them, I mean I look nothing like them. I can't even bring myself to watch that type of stuff, I mean I have in the past with one other boyfriend, but now I feel uncomfortable, like it is dirty. Please does anyone have any advice or suggestions for me.

[COAD]

Talk to him

[BlackRose]

My suggestion is to slowly desensitize yourself to this stuff. Start by watching a little bit of porn. Get used to they idea that you are a woman an no matter what you look like, you still have all the same parts as these unrealistic chick. Read about different positions and things people experiment with. I know I went to catholic school until I was in 6th grade and to hear the word penis used to make me cringe. Eventually I heard it so much that it became common. After a while, I was even able to use those and similar words. The more you hear it and see it all, the more common it becomes. I used to have body issues (still do but dont we all!) but I still buy sexy undies and stuff for the guy I am with at the time to see me in. I take pride in how I look and how my men look at me. It doesn't matter what you look like. Your husband must love your body and how you look if he wants to have the lights on and you to wear sexy things. Sex it up girl. Maybe try wearing it a little when you are all alone and just imagine how sexy you are and will be to your husband. Work yourself up to it. Eventually you might even want to surprise him out of the blue. As for anal sex, it's not so great. You don't NEED that to make your sex life amazing. If you do decide to give it a try, look up some web sites about it first. Learn all the basics like proper lubrication and preperation. Stuff like that. You should do that anyway when trying something new. Have you tried maybe doing it "doggy style?" I know that sounds horrible but it will be highly pleasurable for the both of you. He will get the "rear entry" he desires without going in your back door and you will get to experience the pleasures of getting it from behind. It's very erotic and lots of fun. If you decide to do that, do it with the lights off the first few times until you get into it, then maybe try dim lights. You're husband loves you so I am sure he wont mind working gradually with you. I think he just wants to blow you away (no pun intended). He wants to spice up your sex life and you should be flattered that he still cares enough to want to be intimate with you. I hear so many women on here complaining about their husbands and even boyfriends who don't want to have sex with them. I'm just glad to hear that he is still having sex with you. That's a good start! lol Hmmm...What else did I want to say? I think that's it for now. If you have any more questions, ask away. We are all here to help.

[shh!]

I don't know why your fiance would want you to participate in sexual activities that make you feel degraded; that doesn't sound very loving to me! (Of course I am assuming you are open to more traditional sexual activities.) As for the lingerie, well I know that there are some types that are sexy but cover up a bit more. I would consider that to be an area where some sort of compromise can be made. Also, instead of lights on, try a candle instead, as the lighting is much less bright and much more flattering.

And by the way, as another momma, I would suggest you keep an eye on that porn habit or his. You definitely don't want the kiddies to come across it.

[mhussain]

u feel bad on knowing that u r nothing like the women in the porn mags?

u should be happy

Hussain

[COAD]

u feel bad on knowing that u r nothing like the women in the porn mags?

u should be happy

Hussain

WOW MAN!!!
This is like the best reply i saw in this thread!
Your smart man!

[mhussain]

thanks man ,,,

Hussain