Hi guys,
Any advise you can offer me or your perspective would be brilliant.
I lost my job just before Christmas and its put a massive strain on our relationship.
He is now doing ridiculous amounts of overtime just to keep our heads above water and pay our bills.
I appreciate him doing this so much i tell him all the time and I can't begin to explain the guilt I feel for getting made redundant.
The problem is his literally waking up going to work coming home sleeping 24/7 . He has two days off a week and he spends those catching up on sleep.
We are like passing ships and go days without talking the bond between us is getting weaker and weaker.
He's shattered when he comes home and walks around like a zombie and I feel useless because I spend all day applying for jobs and attending interviews and am getting no where my confidence is at rock bottom I feel like a complete failure.
I tried to express my concerns and he walked off saying he was too tired to have this argument again.
I've tried doing nice things for him like cooking him a nice dinner or running him a bath but then he says he ate at work or Is too tired he just wants to go to bed. We haven't slept together in god knows how long and we're barely speaking.
I really want to fix this he is my best friend in the whole world and we have had 10 wonderful years together I tried to tell him how lonely I am and how much I miss him and I don't want a lot just a cuddle when he comes home or a 10 minute chat his response was to get me a puppy to keep me company. Don't get me wrong she's lovely and was a great present but she's not him
I tried again today to say I was feeling really bad about how things are going and I really want us to set some time aside to work on things and he just flipped and said I have no idea how much stress his under and he doesn't need another thing to worry about . The last thing I want to do is add more stress to the situation as I feel I've caused this mess in the first place .