Some may be familiar with my situation, that being a guy in his mid-20s who's never had sex, never been in a relationship, and never even been on a date. Honestly, over the last eight or so years, I've only encountered a total of two girls I actually was interested in dating, neither of which wanted to date me; that's the scary part, because for most guys, finding a girl they want to date is as simple as going "Ooh, she's hot, I'm going to try to get her number!", or whatever. For me, I'm more interested in how we get along, and how well we "connect" over certain things, and that takes a bit more time to see, thus, I usually have no interest in asking out a girl until I've gotten to know her a bit beforehand.
Anyway, I've gotten to wondering, is it possible my "sex drive" is broken? Thinking back to high school, I'd say I had a fairly typical "sex drive". I mean, I wasn't personally interested in any of the girls I knew, and I was kind of repressed anyway because I was the big loser in high school that got bullied and no one wanted to be around (let alone, date). High school affected me so negatively that, for a year or two after it was over, I was still carrying a lot of those negative feelings and thoughts with me, and still fairly closed off to people and the world in general.
Over the last year or two, I've been finding myself really wanting to date, and find someone special, but I just can't seem to connect with girls that way. I mean, I have no problems being friendly and talking to girls, but we just never hit it off in a way that dating seems like an option. Last summer, I DID hit it off really well with a girl finally, and the way she was acting towards me, I really felt like there was interest on her part, too, but I ended up being wrong.
I've been kinda down about that, because I liked her a lot, and people (mostly on forums like these, as I don't really have any close friends offline) have been telling me that I just need to meet more girls. That's kinda where the "broken sex drive" thing comes in, though. I mean, I WANT to date, but that natural basic sexual "urge" just isn't strong enough for me to go out and try to meet girls (I really don't like the idea of doing "cold approaches" anyway).
I mean... It's not that I have no sexual urges whatsoever; I still have my "me time" (not excessively, of course; usually about once a day, 3-4 times a week), and I do frequently get "aroused", often for no good reason at all. But I kinda think I've gone so long without dating and actually experiencing sex with another person that I just no longer really see the appeal. I mean, I already know how the end result feels, and it's just a nice little feeling that lasts for maybe a few seconds, so what's the point? Honestly, I'm kinda bored with having "me time", as I don't have a very good imagination for fantasizing, so I mostly just do it out of habit (and also to avoid having it happen while I'm asleep during the night).
So, yeah, like the topic title says, is my sex drive "broken"? What can I do about this, if anything?