What do I do next?

[Kingfisher]

My girlfriend and I work together, have done for a while now, or shall I say ex at this point in time, we argued a lot but we came to the conclusion it was only abou work, we moved in together 3 weeks ago and it brought us closer, she suffers from depression so it is very tough, I've moved back to my mums but we broke up because we argued about work, but i immediately sorted that by asking if we could have seperate shifts and that's now in place starting next week, I've done nothing wrong but I feel so helpless, I need her back and to start this again the proper way, a work friend close to us both says she will come back in her own time just give her space but she's adamant that she's had enough with the arguing, what do I do? What do I say to her to make her realise or ya know.. The problem has been solved

Thanks.

[brokenhearted91]

Me and my boyfriend, or should I say ex too, argued a lot over the last year. Mainly because I was unhappy living away from home, was hating and stresses at university. This caused us tension and arguments because I took thinks out on him instead of letting him be there for me. He told me it was making him unhappy but because of the other issues in my life I didn't take him seriously enough to change. He ended it because he couldn't take it anymore and didn't think I was going to change. Ironic now that that has made me want to change and be a better person when it's too late. I'd be lying if I said I wouldn't want him back, I'd do anything for him to miss me and want to give him one more chance to show how I can change. I don't want to get my hopes up thinking this will happen but if I don't keep the faith, ill just slip into depression so it's catch 22. So I guess I'm in a similar position to you and it absolutely sucks

[Kingfisher]

Yeah indeed it's not nice, it was work that got in the way and she got sick of the arguing, as did I, but it was only about work, we get on so great together and we do a lot of stuff, movin in together was the best decision we made, a work friend that is close to us both said she will come round in time, just give her space because we've broke up twice before over worse things and eventually sorted it. I've done nothing at all wrong this time and I just want to sort it you know? Because I know it will be better this time, I just don't know what to say.. I want to mend I but al I can do is sit back and give her space, there must be something I can do in this situation

[brokenhearted91]

I know exactly how you feel. I even had messages from him a week before we split up saying how good he thought we were together. When we were good we were brilliant, but like with you the arguing got in the way and I think it kind of muddied his view. I just wish he could see how determined I am to make such positive changes to go back to the way it was when we first met. I just can't believe after the things he said to me just before we broke up that he could just cut me out as if I never existed. I can't help but hold onto the hope that something positive will happen but at the same time I just feel like I'm wasting my time. This situation is just so much harder than I could ever have imagined.

[Kingfisher]

Yeah well she called me after I tried to get into her head that it will be different if we work different shifts and eventually work new jobs, but she's adamant not to, it's her depression and the medication she's on that doesn't help, we're both in the wrong and I've done nothing wrong.. So maybe she just doesn't want to get back with me which I'm gutted about, I really was learning, and about myself, helpin we through her depression, guess I just leave her alone completely now