Jealousy, Hate, or both?

[ang3lswrath]

To start this story off, we have my ex-girlfriend, "Sarah", an extremely close friend, "Joe", and a sweet caring friend, "Myah". Sarah and I had been dating for almost a month (I know, its not that long) when she decided one Friday night to go to a movie with her friends. Sarah ended up meeting my close friend Joe and his friends. I was left out of this entire situation and personally felt hurt. Come Monday, Sarah breaks up with me because she has feelings for Joe but states that she "Wants to act as if we are dating, without the dating." Essentially, she wants to continue to be best friends, hang out like we were when we dated, talk like we used to.. all while she went after Joe. I started No Contact with Sarah and ended my friendship with Joe the next night because I realized I couldn't do it. I was told that she became sad because of me not talking to her, but I didn't/don't care. I am still continuing No Contact and Joe is pursuing Sarah. Once Sarah met Joe at the movies, most of her friends started to like me less. They would bad mouth me to her, making her think less of me and further harming our relationship. Now they hate me and it is obvious that they have influenced Sarah's decision. She still seems confused about whether she wants Joe or me, but I simply want to move on. Now in comes Myah, the ONLY one of Sarah's friends that actually tried to help me. She didn't like the fact that Sarah ended a relationship because she liked a guy she met once. Myah started talking to me and began helping me through the situation by telling me things like "She still likes you, She is only confused, Im sorry but she has stopped talking to me too, just be there for her, etc.." Once I started talking to Myah more though, Sarah became extremely upset and told Myah not to talk about her anymore to me. Then comes today. Since Sarah had chosen Joe over me, I saw no reason to assume I would be going to prom with her. I asked Myah if she would like to go as friends and she smiled saying "I'll think about it." This made Sarah livid, she resorted to calling me names and upset Myah. Sarah and two of her friends even talked Myah out of going to Prom Altogether! Myah told me she just wouldn't go to prom because she didn't want everyone to be upset with her. She felt like her relationship was already being ruined with Sarah. Do any of you here have any input on this situation? Is "Sarah" jealous or just plain mad? Did I do anything wrong here? Sarah has told me multiple times to just move on, but why wont she let me now? I also overheard Sarah telling Myah that I would likely turn into a "manwhore that flirts with all the girls" among other things. I truly do not understand this woman (Sarah). She tells me that I am too romantic and that she doesn't like how I never argued with her once. Does Sarah still have feelings for me, is she just angry or jealous, and what the heck is going on here? I still like Sarah quite a bit honestly, and would be willing to date her again if she decides she likes me more than Joe. Just tell me your thoughts and ideas on this whole... problem. No contact has been rather hard on me and I would like others opinons.

F.Y.I - Sarah and I did move rather fast emotionally. Sarah also told me that at times she never wanted to leave my side, but at other moments she felt as if something was amiss. Sarah also has a tendency to go up to my closest friend and tell him things, knowing that he will tell me exactly what she said. She looks at me when I talk to other girls, gets upset if she thinks im talking about her.

Thanks!

[basilandthyme]

ang3lswrath, you're surrounded by teenage girls who are behaving as teenage girls. There are exceptions where teenage girls can behave maturely, but not in this group. My best advice is to find another group of girls and leave these ones behind.

[michelle23]

you will look back on this when your an adult and laugh so hard. Its teenage drama. Forget it and get on with your life.