Is it okay to be upset over this / should I end things?

[Shae77]

My boyfriend and I have been daring for almost 2 years. We've had a rocky past and he used to lie to me a lot but we worked through it. The other day I created an Instagram account and saw he had been liking very provocative pics of our classmates. It really hurt my feelings when I saw all if the pictures he had liked. Is that reasonable to be angry and hurt about? He had told me a few weeks ago that he'd stopped liking girls pics so he lied to me. I confronted him about it and he started arguing with me. Then he admitted he was wrong but he claims he had never seen the pics before even though he liked them. He says he was scrolling through very fast and liking everything without looking at it but I don't think that's possible to do. I would never end things over liking pictures, but its the fact that hes lying to me again that has me worried. Also when initially brought up the pictures, during the fight he said he was sick of me and told me to dump him. He later regretted saying that, but he still said it.. I should also add that as if 3 weeks ago we've been in a long distance relationship- I just moved to another country for my dads job. I'm torn on what to do b/c I love him and I've been with him so long, but I don't know if ill ever trust him again because he's proving he hasn't changed. Am I in the wrong in this situation? What should I do?

[madotnw_nihs]

Do you mind telling us how old you two are? I think you have the right to be upset over it. And it's more to the fact that he is just coming with lame excuses and lies. This and the LD relationship will make it very tough, I am afraid he is not as committed to this as you are.

[Shae77]

I'm 17. And he's never done anything like this before.. He's liked girls pics if he was mad At me but just if their faces

[Shae77]

Also, we haven't fought at all since I moved so he wasn't liking those pictures to make me angry.

[madotnw_nihs]

I guess my thoughts are you guys are young. If you want to keep him as a bf, just roll along with it. The long D isn't going to make it easy. If you find another guy that you like, don't be afraid to date him. This is the only you can learn who you are most compatible with.

[Shae77]

Okay. Thank you!! Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?

[smackie9]

Your relationship has given up the ghost. It's time to stop bi tchin about it (it's not going to change), and take action....dump him. LDR's are a waste of time. Him liking girls is just the first step of him wandering...this is a red flag. Stop ignoring the warning signs. If it doesn't feel right, it's not. I know what your gut is telling you, but you came here to see if your gut is wrong....it's not.

[Wakeup]

Honey, you're 17 and you're living somewhere where he isn't. You've had a rocky past and he's lied to you. Why waste anymore valuable dating time with someone that will definately NOT be your life-partner. End it with him, heal from the disappointment of not being with him as well as it not working and then find a great guy close by that you can actually be with.

It's time, really. Don't consider the length of time you've been with him as a reason why you shouldn't leave.

[madotnw_nihs]

My gut agrees w/ WakeUp and Smackie. This feels like all kinds of wrong. In this scenario, he hasn't done anything to make you feel comfortable. Since you are 17, you haven't dated him that long. I understand when young people want to hang on to their b/gfs because it's something kind of new. We have all been there and speak from experience that you have time and chances are this boy is not your last. BTW I have had a few LDs. While many people believe they don't work, I believe differently. But things are tougher than non-LDs, and both of you have to be committed. In your case, I can't see that he will be.

[romanticdate]

If there's no trust there is not a real relationship. If you feel for any reason you can't trust him, and you don't think you can work through it with him(aka him not every doing it again), you need to break up with him. Perhaps a break, with the idea that you can be friends, might be better, and who knows with time things could get better. However if he is lying to you "again" then that is already too much. Trust is key, and when it's broken it's almost impossible to get back. But don't worry too much about it, just have an honest full conversation, and if he gets angry or tries to change the subject, or can't live up to your expectations then you will know what to do. Best to do it sooner than later, though, just so that neither of you are getting even more attached or leading each other on.

[Shae77]

You guys are right... It's going to be really hard but thank you for giving me the advice I needed to hear

[michelle23]

i agree its time to end it. if u dont hell prob cheat on you

[oxytocinbite]

Your relationship has given up the ghost. It's time to stop bi tchin about it (it's not going to change), and take action....dump him. LDR's are a waste of time. Him liking girls is just the first step of him wandering...this is a red flag. Stop ignoring the warning signs. If it doesn't feel right, it's not. I know what your gut is telling you, but you came here to see if your gut is wrong....it's not.

We all know she should dump him since the guy is obviously lying to her like crazy but you dont need to say LDR's are a waste of time cause they can actually work out. (:

[smackie9]

Only if it is for the short term. If there is no relocation, then there is no need to deny oneself the comfort of flesh to flesh.

LDR's will fall apart after some time .....

[Kromat83]

Only if it is for the short term. If there is no relocation, then there is no need to deny oneself the comfort of flesh to flesh.

LDR's will fall apart after some time .....

I agree with Smackie, you have a whole life ahead of you.

If you dated him in university and were finished with that, at least you
two could use that education to find jobs, and relocate yourselves.

At this moment, your still trying to find your way in life, and you'll see, there will
will plenty of opportunities to find quality guys at your school, that you will just
remember this one as a stepping stone to what you would eventually become.

He has lied to you multiple times, so it's time to move on,
and your relocation might be the first step.

P.S. you could continue the Long-Distance, but is it wroth it ?
Are both of you mature enough to handle it ?