Seeking advice about discovering a past incestual relationship.

[Wakeup]

If you can forgive him and not get an immediate OMG he's sick and I can never live with him kind of feeling, then why wouldn't you talk to him about it? Question: Do you trust that he wasn't having sex with her the whole time he was vacationing with her?

Obviously you're not going to leave this guy so why be afraid to talk to him about something that important? What are YOU afraid of is the question you have to ask yourself. Saying you don't want to open it up after such a long period of time doesn't really clear up what you are afraid of. If you were'nt afraid of the answers I think it would have been a normal human response to be concerned and to ask whats the deal?. iMO and for your own peace of mind, it's important to know his thought process for such a thing happening but also because he's kept such a video for all this time. (that to me is a real concern because it indicates he's been viewing it and reliving it.) When exactly did he think he was deleting it?

[michelle23]

did you check the date on when it was deleted? that should be a major concern.

[surfhb2]

My thoughts too. If this was years ago and not ongoing, why is it turning up now ?

Incredibly bizarre situation here...be careful

[Wakeup]

If op doesn't come back I think we can safely assume T.R.O.L.L. We shall see.

[LisaW]

did you check the date on when it was deleted? that should be a major concern.

The trashcan had 100s of files. From what I remember, he deleted a bunch of files before he gave me the laptop. There were other files like his resume, stuff from work, and lots other files I have no idea what they were. I didn't really pay attention to what most of was, I just noticed a bunch photos, so I started looking at them. Most were old family photos going back many years, I had not seen most of them.

[Wakeup]

If you haven't cleaned out the trashcan then you can right click it got to "properties" and it will tell you when it was created and when it was sent to the recyle bin.

[LisaW]

If op doesn't come back I think we can safely assume T.R.O.L.L. We shall see.

This is a very rude comment, as well the person who gave thanks. I would appreciate it if would you no longer responded. I was going to reply to your first comment, but I no longer wish to get your feedback.

[Wakeup]

My apologies. I thought you were just one of many people who come in with unusual situations, get us all responding and then disappear. (to add) To explain the "thanks" The thanks was likely given because it's a common occurrance and was agreed with.

If you had asked, you would have gotten an explanation without having to feel those upset feelings it apparently provoked.

[surfhb2]

This is a very rude comment, as well the person who gave thanks. I would appreciate it if would you no longer responded. I was going to reply to your first comment, but I no longer wish to get your feedback.

Oh relax! Shes given you great advice. You cant blame us for thinking you are troll.....this whole situation is bizzare.

Personally, whats even more bizarre is that you arent running far away from this man....jeesh!! LOL Crazy world and just my opinion.

I mean seriously girl?! You see a video of your BF fuccking his sister and youre debating what to do about it? Whatever

[Wakeup]

I mean seriously girl?! You see a video of your BF fuccking his sister and youre debating what to do about it? Whatever

Not to be rude, but ^^^ he has a point. It is something that most people would be running away from and thanking their higher power that they dodged a bullet.

Up to you of course if you'd be okay with knowing what you know.

[Kromat83]

i know incest is wrong on so many levels, since you know each
other from childhood, and spend many years together.

There is suppose to be a bond, but nothing too physical,
where it gets in the way of being a family.

I know they were probably curious, being nude is one thing, but having
sex at that age, they should know better what they were doing, what if
it was unprotected sex and she was pregnant, what then ?

First thing her parents would ask, who was it with and if they found
out it was with her brother, who knows how well they would be treated.

I would feel sick if that is what was happening, when the parents were around.

If he was smart, he would have thought about what was in the
trash can, and deleted it so there wasn't any evidence.

With computers, you need to get rid of any evidence of what you were doing,
or it'll hunt you later if he didn't want you to know.

I'm surprised your so okay with it, i would talk to him about it,
and see what his answer would be at least, he was keeping
this from you, and there shouldn't be any secrets.

[bearz]

You should definitely bring this up to him. It's going to be on your mind and if you don't ask him about it it will drive you crazy. Just make sure he's comfortable that it will stay between you two.

[surfhb2]

My apologies. I thought you were just one of many people who come in with unusual situations, get us all responding and then disappear. (to add) To explain the "thanks" The thanks was likely given because it's a common occurrance and was agreed with.

If you had asked, you would have gotten an explanation without having to feel those upset feelings it apparently provoked.

Exactly! I mean you're only 23 or so and you are only dating this guy. Call me crazy but I'd think brother/sister incest would be a deal breaker for most women.....or at the very least, a red flag. . LOL

[Wakeup]

Not to mention that it is illegal.

http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/article/incest-laws-united-states

[michelle23]

guys calm down. i know the whole situation is crazy but how do we no that these two kids were not groomed or forced into child pornography?

they were kids and we dont no their side of the story.

OP you need to speak to him and get answers.