Did you read the link, Op?
I know I wouldn't want my daughter involved in any of that if neither the sister or your bf had therapy. There is bound to be some risidual issues there with them being mixed up about their emotions and sexual attraction to one another.
Well, I'm only giving you advice to protect YOURself here. You're not thinking about the ramifications of what may still be lingering here. There's no reason for you to feel "unwelcome" just because I'm not giving you pat answers and because I'm making you think.
How do you know your bf filmed that scene. Does he say in the video that he himself is going to film it. There's some scary stuff have happened here and I'm concerned about all the ramifications you're not taking into account.
lisa its ok. calm down. nobody is judging you. its just a shocking situation and sometimes we are clouded by our own emotions especially when it comes to these kinda issues.
your friends would prob react similar to some people here. dont be offended by anyones advice. its not a personal attack on you.
you are prob still in shock and need time to process this but at some point you do have to talk to him. this is too big an issue to ignore.
you are very defensive and its understandable with what your going through but people here do want to help you
the fact that he deleted lots of stuff just before giving you the laptop should be a concern. the reason i didnt mention that they could have been abused before was bcoz i dont want that to cloud your judgement or make assumptions.
you need facts-not theories. i think you should plan a trip away alone as soon as possible. make up an excuse to not be around for a few days. you need time to think, to process this, to start thinking rationally. before you speak to him about it. otherwise your emotions will take over and it could turn into world war 3.
i no this is hard and your prob in denial right now coz ur not ready to deal with this so you need to escape until you are
I'm judging and I say "troll".
Boyfriend just happens to have photos of this nature in his trashcan? Yeah, right
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
10 years ago, when these photos were allegedly taken, digital cameras were very new. I had a 2.0mp camera which cost as much as a new film SLR. I don't believe a 13yo would have had access to a super expensive camera and a PC all of his own to safely load them them on.
And don't give me any stories about the photos being analogue because no way would he have taken them to be developed in a store.
Troll, troll, troll
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
Thanks everyone, I'm not seeking further advice because of the attacks I'm getting here. I think its very uncool and rude to call anyone a troll simply because they can't make sense of it. What more could I have done other than post info that I know, even if I don't know everything? I am not expert that knows how and why these things happen and can explain it. Yes, there a lot of things that don't make sense to me either, so I am blamed for that.
Last edited by LisaW; 10-03-13 at 03:37 PM.
If it doesn't make sense it's probably not true: A good rule for life.
Never regret anything that has happened in your life. It cannot be changed, forgotten or undone. So, take it as a lesson learned and move on.
Now i see that its not me for shore.
topic starter just want us to tell her what she wants to hear.
and she gets mad with the people that tell her the truth.
its sad. you dont come hear to hear yourself speaking.
maybe you are one of those that have to learn the hard way