Seeking advice about discovering a past incestual relationship.

[LisaW]

Not to be rude, but ^^^ he has a point. It is something that most people would be running away from and thanking their higher power that they dodged a bullet.

Up to you of course if you'd be okay with knowing what you know.

Thanks for you input. I would appreciate if you did not respond any further.

[LisaW]

guys calm down. i know the whole situation is crazy but how do we no that these two kids were not groomed or forced into child pornography?

they were kids and we dont no their side of the story.

OP you need to speak to him and get answers.

Thanks for you input. I think I understand your point of view.

[Wakeup]

Did you read the link, Op?

I know I wouldn't want my daughter involved in any of that if neither the sister or your bf had therapy. There is bound to be some risidual issues there with them being mixed up about their emotions and sexual attraction to one another.

[LisaW]

Did you read the link, Op?

I know I wouldn't want my daughter involved in any of that if neither the sister or your bf had therapy. There is bound to be some risidual issues there with them being mixed up about their emotions and sexual attraction to one another.

I need to seek advice in a different forum, I do not feel welcome here.

[Wakeup]

Well, I'm only giving you advice to protect YOURself here. You're not thinking about the ramifications of what may still be lingering here. There's no reason for you to feel "unwelcome" just because I'm not giving you pat answers and because I'm making you think.

How do you know your bf filmed that scene. Does he say in the video that he himself is going to film it. There's some scary stuff have happened here and I'm concerned about all the ramifications you're not taking into account.

[michelle23]

lisa its ok. calm down. nobody is judging you. its just a shocking situation and sometimes we are clouded by our own emotions especially when it comes to these kinda issues.

your friends would prob react similar to some people here. dont be offended by anyones advice. its not a personal attack on you.

you are prob still in shock and need time to process this but at some point you do have to talk to him. this is too big an issue to ignore.

you are very defensive and its understandable with what your going through but people here do want to help you

[surfhb2]

I need to seek advice in a different forum, I do not feel welcome here.

Sorry we're not giving you the answers you want to hear in the way you want to hear them

Good luck and tread lightly

[michelle23]

the fact that he deleted lots of stuff just before giving you the laptop should be a concern. the reason i didnt mention that they could have been abused before was bcoz i dont want that to cloud your judgement or make assumptions.

you need facts-not theories. i think you should plan a trip away alone as soon as possible. make up an excuse to not be around for a few days. you need time to think, to process this, to start thinking rationally. before you speak to him about it. otherwise your emotions will take over and it could turn into world war 3.

i no this is hard and your prob in denial right now coz ur not ready to deal with this so you need to escape until you are

[LisaW]

I think you should talk to him about it. Otherwise it will just keep bothering you on some level, there's no point getting married like that. Let us know how it goes.

Thanks. Its very likely we shall talk about it, I just want to make sure I've got my thoughts straight before hand.

[basilandthyme]

I'm judging and I say "troll".

Boyfriend just happens to have photos of this nature in his trashcan? Yeah, right

[basilandthyme]

10 years ago, when these photos were allegedly taken, digital cameras were very new. I had a 2.0mp camera which cost as much as a new film SLR. I don't believe a 13yo would have had access to a super expensive camera and a PC all of his own to safely load them them on.

And don't give me any stories about the photos being analogue because no way would he have taken them to be developed in a store.

Troll, troll, troll

[LisaW]

Thanks everyone, I'm not seeking further advice because of the attacks I'm getting here. I think its very uncool and rude to call anyone a troll simply because they can't make sense of it. What more could I have done other than post info that I know, even if I don't know everything? I am not expert that knows how and why these things happen and can explain it. Yes, there a lot of things that don't make sense to me either, so I am blamed for that.

[basilandthyme]

If it doesn't make sense it's probably not true: A good rule for life.

[coconutz]

Now i see that its not me for shore.

topic starter just want us to tell her what she wants to hear.
and she gets mad with the people that tell her the truth.

its sad. you dont come hear to hear yourself speaking.
maybe you are one of those that have to learn the hard way

[LisaW]

the fact that he deleted lots of stuff just before giving you the laptop should be a concern. the reason i didnt mention that they could have been abused before was bcoz i dont want that to cloud your judgement or make assumptions.

you need facts-not theories. i think you should plan a trip away alone as soon as possible. make up an excuse to not be around for a few days. you need time to think, to process this, to start thinking rationally. before you speak to him about it. otherwise your emotions will take over and it could turn into world war 3.

i no this is hard and your prob in denial right now coz ur not ready to deal with this so you need to escape until you are

Thanks for all your advice. I appreciate that you have taken to time to respond with thoughtful comments.