Originally Posted by
LisaW
Well coconutz, that wasn't the type of response I was expecting, and its not working for me because you include too many assumptions that are black and white. We have been together 3 years and he's not shown any sexual interest in young girls, and I didn't find any other pictures\video among the 100s of pictures he thought he had deleted. His sister has never shown any reservations about being around him, and often calls him just to chat. There is no faking it as some form of denial. If she wasn't his sister, and just some girl, I would be jealous of how close they are, but since they are brother and sister, their closeness has always been OK with me.
My boyfriend and I have privately talked about our past sexual relationships, and he did tell me he first had sex when he was 13, he just never identified who it was, and I never asked. He had sex with various girlfriends over the years, just as I have had sex with various boyfriends. I have even had couple sexual conversations with his sister about her relationships, and it all typical girl talk. No red flags came up that even remotely caused me wonder if anything unusual had occurred in the past. It almost seems as if they had sex as BF & GF at a young age, and moved on as friends, which if not for being siblings, would just be a case of having sex at younger age than what is typical.
If anything, your comments to encourage me to expose him and sister to his family and the world without any further information, only scares me into doing just the opposite. I'd rather do\say nothing than take your suggestion and trigger a firestorm of problems where, as far as I can determined at the moment, all happened over a decade go when they were 12-13. There maybe valid reasons to talk to my boyfriend about it, but your reasons don't work for me.