Seeing each other less?

[Dextur]

Hey there,

First let me start off by saying that I am not in any way bored with my relationship. My girlfriend and I have been dating about 7 and a half months now and we pretty much see each other every day. She has college 4 days a week, however I am currently on a gap year so I have a free schedule. I enjoy spending time with her, but I do sometimes feel like I don't want to see her some days because I just want a day in to play computer games with my friends.

To clarify, my friends and I have played computer games with each other for around the past 7 years of our lives together online and that is actually how we socialise with each other - playing the likes of World of Warcraft together. Not because we are super nerdy, but because one of us has moved to England for Uni, and the other few live throughout the country so we can't really see each other that often. This is where it becomes difficult, when I say to my girlfriend I want to go home a bit earlier, say at 9 or so rather than 11, she just sees it as me "leaving her to play games". I understand that is sort of what it is, but it is my hobby, and it is what I do to interact with my friends.

Lately I have sort of found it harder to get sitting down to play with all my friends because I am only ever on after 11 (the time I get home at) and they are either playing something different with other people by that time, or offline.
I understand how this may come across as I am sad and just want to play games but I hope that some of you see my point.

I tried to explain to her my wanting to go home earlier because I told my friends i'd be on is like her saying to her friend that she will be around at her house to hang out at 9 - because that is just how we interact with each other.

I dunno, my girlfriend mentioned maybe spending less time together not in a bad way but in a healthy way, but the first night that I went home early she got annoyed haha.

If that is how she reacts to me going home a bit earlier one night how am I supposed to say that I maybe want a day to myself every once in a while?

I hope I haven't made my girlfriend or myself come across badly in any of this.

Opinions, and please be constructive

[basilandthyme]

I wouldn't be going home one night early if I were you - I'd just say that I need one night to myself. If she doesn't understand such a basic need, then tough titties for her.

Make sure she doesn't walk all over you.

[Kromat83]

First off, you shouldn't be playing a game like
WOW, got addicted to that shit for 3 years.

I see my brother that is 9 years younger then me, keep playing it
and not sure why he still plays, even if his friend enjoys it.

When do you play with them ? can't you just see each other on weekends ?

[Dextur]

I have played World of Warcraft on and off for about 7 years now but I play it responsibly and don't no life it don't worry about that lol. But the game itself isn't the point lol, it's about having my own personal/free time.

[Kromat83]

Well, maybe she is clingy and she has to understand
that your friends are important in your life as well.

Like if she wanted to spend time with hers,
you would have to respect that.

Once a week with her is fine, you'll have more to share,
and realize how much you can't wait to spend time together.

[pepperanne1016]

Well in every relationship you should spend time together but you should have night that are nights that are dedicated to either a girls night out where she does stuff with her friends or a guys night where you do stuff with your friends. A night or two for some "me" time is health for each of you and it gives you the opportunity for each of you to miss each other and to value each other and your relationship

[Dextur]

Well I tried to talk to her about it and said that I don't get to see my friends in person anymore but she has taken it badly saying I am addicted to games and that I have no life apart from seeing her and playing with my friends.

[bearz]

She doesn't seem to understand the difference between playing computer games and having fun with your friends online. I know what you are going through because pretty much all my friends are online as well and I do play a lot of computer games as well. You really should get a night or two per week that you can spend with your friends and not with her. You have to make her understand that you playing WoW for a few hours a night is pretty much he same as you going out with friends. A good friend of mine just moved in with his long time girlfriend and she is giving him 2-3 nights a week for whatever he wants to do. You have to be a me to make sacrifices and give each other space and freedom. But until she understands your needs this isn't going to work.