Where to start?
I met this guy on a dating site.
We started chatting for days on end, days turned into weeks and then months.
He lives four hours away and him and i started a LDR, but recently he ended it, saying he just can't have a phone relationship anymore and that he just wants and needs me to be there and not somewhere he can't physically reach me.
The long distance has put quite a strain on us both mentally and physically but I guess some people just can only try for so long.
This man suffers from bipolar also so I know that he over thinks things and the idea of me not being there was hard for him, but when we were together in person everything was amazing in every way.
Anyway, this is the root to why it's ended. Now the thing is, he knows I am moving closer within an hour from him (not because of him) but because it is something I need to do for myself.
I know this man really cares for me, and would do anything for me. He says he loves me but said he can't wait any longer. He talks to his friends often and sometimes they have given him the worse advice which causes him to think rationally and then we hit a speed bump about this everytime. He even said that they were starting to doubt that he had a gf. I know these thinkgs could and have help trigger his uncertain feelings
I understand that people get to a point and he has tried to give me extended time and ignore his needs for the sake of us, what I just don't understand is why he couldn't give me a little more.
He stated he wasn't getting any younger, he said he just can't do one more month of seeing me twice in person then the rest via phone.
We spoke on the phone for about 3 hours and I knew he was fighting his decision through conversation and everytime it went back to the sweet chatter something would trigger and he would correct himself and end up back on track.
It hurts but I respect and understand where he is coming from but what I want to know is, when I finally hit that location should I try again? Should I drop maybe a letter on his letter box, make some form of contact and give him the choice or should I just try and let go?
This all happened last night so things are fresh and unpredictable I just don't know what to do?..