My fiancee and I have a trusting, exclusive relationship. She is young and sexy. Guys constantly seem to want to get with her. I am not bragging, It is just something I have accepted or I would probably be jealous all the time and ruin our wonderful realtionship. For the most part she seems to aviod these guys. Alot of it takes place at work though, so it is unaviodable. She works in a large social office setting and her manager position requires alot of interaction. It seems all her male friends either want to get with her or they are gay (she literally has alot of gay friends). I really do trust her and she has always been honest and open with me.
She came home late from work yesterday after going drinking alone with a male coworker/friend. In the past it has not bothered me when she has a couple drinks with her coworkers. Recently she has had a coworker who feared for his job accuse her of sexual harassment, among other more minor things. Apparently this person was a good friend who was horrible at his job and had only kept it while others had been let go because of her favoritism (she is a team manager). She stopped cutting him breaks and he accused her of some negative things. She did say, "we were really close, you know when two people get really close they can get touchy, but not in a bad way". She claimed she thought of him as a little brother. He later apologized and said he only said that because he thought she was going to fire him. She also mentioned a couple months ago about a male coworker/friend who has said it is his mission to get with her.
Since I do trust her I havent always bothered asking for names to her stories or have not put that much effort into remembering the ones given. I am unclear at this point, but based on her reaction when i replied "cool, what friend" I now suspect all 3 things mentioned above are the same guy. I will be clearing this up shortly. She had asked me "what do u mean what friend" and said 4 other short things before giving the name, with me asking "which friend" in the meantime. Almost seemed like I was suppose to recognize the name but in a bad way. On there own, the 3 things I mentioned in the last paragraph doesnt bother me much, but together it does seem to bother me that she would continue to go out drinking with this person alone. I have been thinking alot about why this would bother me when I have not been jealous with her in the past. I am starting to come to the conclusion that I should not be expected to not be bothered by this.
What does everyone think. Would this bother you and what would you expect from your fiancee?
I am curious in others opinions as I have been in what seems to be a slight bad mood for a month and wonder if that is effecting my reaction. Things of note, she is 23 and when I say drinking she is not getting trashed.. just a couple or so but she is also a light weight. If the coworker from yesterday turns out not to be the same as the other two, then I will forget about it.
Thanks for you time