I'm madly in love with a manipulative person

[bearz]

People do a lot of things to get what they want, that includes pretending to love you. She gives you physical attention and in return you buy her stuff. See how that works? She is already hurting you now but you don't see it.

I'm pretty sure he could got another girl, the problem is that he thinks that he can't do better and therefore sticks with her and lets her use his money. Seriously, find out what happens if you stop paying for everything, see if she sticks around and starts paying for her own stuff or if she drops you like a hot rock.

[IndiReloaded]

What about the flip side of this? Wealthy guys who buy their GFs things and it makes them uncomfortable? Isn't the girl being somewhat silly if 1. the man enjoys it, and 2. he can afford it?

All relationships are transactions of a sort. Her 'love language' seems to be enjoying gifts. Yours seems to be words and acts of appreciation (affirmation, I think). She gets hers, but you don't get yours. That is unfair and what needs correcting through communication, as others have already said.

Tell her what makes you happy and ask for it. If she loves you she will give it to you, willingly. If not, then find someone who will. Sounds like you have a lot to offer. Good luck.

[pcmaster]

Yes its very importand to make her invest emotionaly(or any kind of way) because if you will be the one who does the most than you are gona be the most atracted one aswell. Make sure she qualify. Because its easy to blindly love and give everything without expecting back but still somehow end up alone.

[nathoonder]

I was just looking for perspectives. No we don't do anything else other than shopping and I don't want to suggest doing something because I don't want to make her angry with me.

[VincenzoG91]

Your life will improve the day that you locate your self-esteem and stop talking to her.

[Valixy]

I think that you should determine if you are ok with having this kind of fictional relationship where you pretend to have a girlfriend but she knows that she has a sponsor. It didn't start well between you two and it hasn't improved a bit. You said that you wouldn't mind feeling used in a relationship, so I suppose the real problem for you is not that you are feeling manipulated but the fact that you can see so clearly the intention this girl has behind her manipulation. She is not doing it because of some twisted love interest or personality that she could have but purely because she likes your money and this is too obvious even for you.

Someone was mentioning in a post that every love relationship is some kind of transaction and as long as it is working for both, it's fine. You don't seem to be getting anything at all from your transaction with this girl or very little. So why don't you stop seeing her and spending on her and start investing in things that you like and could make you happy? Investing in yourself, your well-being, your hobbies is a way of investing in possible future relationships too.

Don't ever give up on yourself thinking that you could not have a genuine love relationship with someone because it simply isn't true

[VincenzoG91]

OP should spend his money on escorts instead. That way, at least he will get laid when he spends some money.

[pcmaster]

OP should spend his money on escorts instead. That way, at least he will get laid when he spends some money.

Or learn how to aproach the girls from pick up artists.

[nathoonder]

I think that you should determine if you are ok with having this kind of fictional relationship where you pretend to have a girlfriend but she knows that she has a sponsor. It didn't start well between you two and it hasn't improved a bit. You said that you wouldn't mind feeling used in a relationship, so I suppose the real problem for you is not that you are feeling manipulated but the fact that you can see so clearly the intention this girl has behind her manipulation. She is not doing it because of some twisted love interest or personality that she could have but purely because she likes your money and this is too obvious even for you.

Someone was mentioning in a post that every love relationship is some kind of transaction and as long as it is working for both, it's fine. You don't seem to be getting anything at all from your transaction with this girl or very little. So why don't you stop seeing her and spending on her and start investing in things that you like and could make you happy? Investing in yourself, your well-being, your hobbies is a way of investing in possible future relationships too.

Don't ever give up on yourself thinking that you could not have a genuine love relationship with someone because it simply isn't true

Thanks for the encouragement. I feel like I should invest in myself instead. I've put very much into this relationship and have gotten very little out of it (despite how precious it may be). I've heard the whole "you'll found real love one day" thing but I have my doubts. I think I'm going to hang out with her like..One more time though at least.

[Forrester.080]

Some people just don't respect the precious things they have from the others. I think you should dump her. If you feel happy with it and as long as you still have enough money to cover her spending then you can keep it going until you go broke and she will dump you.

[Jacob E.]

Its noble to be able to provide for your mate but she needs to you for richer or for poorer.