Getting over a Friend

[meloveulongtime]

Ive been seeing a friend for almost a year now. We tried dating and making things official once but it didnt work out. Our timing was always off. We hung out a lot and he has grown on me and became a part of me. Eventhough things didnt work out, deep down, I still love him and have been working on keeping things mutual as friends. Every now and then, I would randomly come across and find pictures of him on dates with other girls, one whom is his ex.

Most of the time, I am okay and have accepted it but once in a while, like today, I felt a little hurt and jealous because he calls me his friend too.

what sucks even more is I havent really made myself open to date other guys yet for the sheer fact I want to be over him completely so that my next relationship can start on a solid note.

I feel like I am killing myself. I think i am a decent girl, cute, smart, and have a lot going for myself but why am I so stuck on this friend? He's made it clear things will never work between us but I a part of me still feels hurt.

I know everyone will tell me, Ya, stop talking to him or seeing him but in honesty, it's not that easy. plus I care about him and still want him in my life. What do I do? how do I get over this hump?

[lamobatsman]

u knw wat to do . u know but u dont want to accept it. im sorry. i find it hard to

[meloveulongtime]

i thought about it and its okay to feel sad, especially seeing an ex with another girl. ive accepted that fact that it will never work out but once in a while, it still hurts. if ever things could work out, which i doubt it ever will, there would be a lot of work to patch up. im just sad and wanted to vent. ill get over it. it takes time and i just need to be patient.

[bearz]

You will get over it. And just like you said, it will take time. You just have to try to keep it in the past, keep telling yourself it's over, and look forward. You have a lot going for you and there are guys who are interested in you, so take a chance and go on a date. You don't have to be ready for a relationship. Just make sure you tell them right from the get go and take it slowly. Don't commit to anything, but spend time with others and keep yourself busy so you don't have that much time to dwell on the past.

[Kromat83]

-- I felt a little hurt and jealous because he calls me his friend too.

--- I havent really made myself open to date other guys yet for the sheer fact I want to be over him completely

--- a part of me still feels hurt.

--- I know everyone will tell me, Ya, stop talking to him or seeing him but in honesty, it's not that easy. plus I care about him and still want him in my life. What do I do? how do I get over this hump?

You need to have hobbies to distract you, spend lots of time with friends, put away
everything that reminds you of him, get rid of him on facebook, don't keep his
number, as that will make you want to call him, and it wont be progress.

Tell him you need your space for a while, even if your just friends now,
so that when you see him again, you'll know that your completely
over him, and you truly can just treat him as a friend.

It'll be hard at first, but you'll see that this advice will be better in the long run,
and maybe even improve the friendship you both have, if you plan to continue it,
but also don't spend time with him alone, but in a group with other people.

[JJhon]

Meloveulongtome, you are in the exact same position as me, only in female version...

Sent from my Galaxy S2

[meloveulongtime]

Thanks guys. I feel much better. At that very moment my feelings were runninng high but as I gave it time, I was back to okay. I am thankful for friends and have been keeping me busy. I know what I'm worth and doubt he will find someone as understanding and loving at me. I will continue moving forward.