My fiance recently started acting really stressed out and having huge temper tantrums, it is so annoying and negative. I can't even stand to be around him barely anymore. We have been working on my house to sell it so we can move back to our home town. I am sure some of it is because of the house. Whenever we try to work together on anything he freaks out and can't listen to me ever. I enjoy working on my house and I want to be able to do that with the person I am supposed to marry and live with the rest of my life.
We have had other problems in the past. When we first got together I caught him chatting up other women but he said they were "just friends". I also caught him looking at porn right before I would get home from work. Basically from the beginning we had problems with his sex drive. I used to try to come on to him and he turned me down so many times now I don't even care if we have sex. He only tries to have sex with me when he is drunk on the weekends which doesn't do it for me.
I told him my family was coming to town this weekend. Then he all of a sudden said he was going back to our home town to see his family and didn't even bother to ask me or see if I wanted to go see my family. Usually when we go back we kind of go our separate ways to see everyone. It just seemed super suspicious so I asked if I could see his phone and he refused. So we got into a huge fight. I have NOTHING to hide on my phone and I have told him he can look at it whenever he wants. If I am supposed to marry this person there shouldn't be any secrets. He said he had to read his texts and I am sure delete whatever was on there prior to me going on there, then he gave it to me. Maybe it is me being paranoid, been cheated on before, but I am starting to think I just need to dump him and move on. I am 35 and don't feel like wasting my life being miserable.