Men, what do you think I should do or think?

[GiadaArainai]

I’m italian, so sorry if my english is bad. I’ll try to be as clear as possible :)
I met a guy two weeks ago and even if he has a girlfriend I understood he liked me (he made me compliments, he talked me, he offered me things,…). Anyway I want to specifie that as long as he has a girlfriend I don’t want to even kiss him, I'm not that type of girl.
Some days later I met him again. I smoke marijuana (I think it’s an healthy thing that’s also why I do so, but, please, I don’t want to start an argue about this.. it’s just a choice, ok? :) ) and he does too. That night I was buiyng some weed, when he asked me two things: if it was for me and if I smoke alone or just with friends. I felt as I had to say that it was for a friend (and it was true, but I didn't say that I buy for me too only quite often) and that I don’t smoke alone (even if I did, but not recently). I felt so because he asked me these things like he was worried about me..
Some days later I met him again: I think he shaved me telling me something like “ciao!”(I think he added a comment, maybe about the last time we talked) out loud, but actually I didn’t answered him back because I was lost in my thoughts and I wasn’t even sure he was talking to me. Anyway I think he got offended because for the WHOLE time it was like he was avoiding to even whatch me in any possible way……. it’s not simple to explain, but maybe mine was just an impression, even if Really seemed so…
I always met him about in the same place, but everytime it was by chance :)
Last Saturday I met him again by the square (mine is a little city). We talked and then we played, together with his friends, cards. While we were playing he started doing me some questions: how old are you? (he:”16? Really? I thought you were 17/18) have you a boyfriend (“No? Ah. It’s a pity” “why?”"because if I hadn’t a girlfriend I would already flirted with you” .. it’s hard for me to translate the last sentence, but I hope you understand, sorry :) ). His girlfriend phoned him and he moved a couple of steps farer. While I was talking with the other guys who were there, I heard him saying to his girlfriend that he was by the square(it seemed like they had to meet, but I didn’t see her for the all night long). When he came back he asked me to play a card game for two with him. One of his friend joined us. Then we, with his friends too, moved to a sort of party. We stayed there. Later he went away for a while with other guys (for about half an hour .. maybe he was with his girlfriend, I don’t know xD). Then he came back, he gave me a great kiss on my cheek, he said he was going home. I stayed a little bit more, then I went home too.
At midnight I found a message on Facebook by him (“hello:))”). I didn’t open the conversation, even if I was awake: I answered about midday saying “hello:)” only (sincerily I did it on purpose.. because 1 maybe I was going to bed soon 2 sincerily, I wanted to tease him a little bit.. I do this way in general with guys, triyng to not exagerate). Well my 2nd point didn’t work very well because he went online by four o’ clock pm, 15 min later he saw the message but he didn’t answer me back. [Why?!?! Damn bastard!!!!].
Maybe I opened Facebook and he saw I was online even if I didn’t aswer him until the next day? Sometimes I open facebook by the mobile phone without even thinking.

I’m so.. curious. Is he into me or not? What does that mean when a guy act this way?
What’s your opinion? Grazie!:)

[michelle23]

i think you should stop talking to him, delete him on facebook and ignore him if you see him again. his behaviour is not cool-he has a girlfriend. how would you feel if he was your boyfriend and he was doing all that with some other girl?

hes not trustworthy. even if he dumps his girlfriend-you should stay away from him.

as for the weed, its your life and your choice but i strongly recommend you stop smoking before you get hooked and throw your whole life down the toilet. your only 16 and im sure you want to go to college and get a good job at some point? meet a nice man? weed will stand in your way and drag you down so you should be careful what choices you are making now.

[GiadaArainai]

I don't use other drugs, just weed, it is prooved that there's no phisical dependence by weed. Other drugs give physical dependence. In my opinion, you should get some information, I did. Anyway I said, I didn't want an argue.
Anyway I never flirted with him (maybe he did, but I din't. I'm not the second girl for no one), I would never date him as long as he has a girlfriend, I'm not that type of person, in fact I always met him by chance.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

I smoke weed everyday and make over 100K salary. I have had many bosses and coworkers who smoke frequently too, and do just fine for themselves. It comes down to the person. Are you naturally lazy as hell, or naturally driven?

OHHHHH, In yo FACE!

[searock]

I smoke weed everyday and make over 100K salary. I have had many bosses and coworkers who smoke frequently too, and do just fine for themselves. It comes down to the person. Are you naturally lazy as hell, or naturally driven?

OHHHHH, In yo FACE!

So you're fine with encouraging a 16 years old kid to continue smoking weed? Or smoking at all, for that matter.

OP, he sounds like a massive jerk. He's flirting with you (and who knows who else) while he has a girlfriend. Ignore him completely.

[GiadaArainai]

Other drugs and cigarettes are dangerous, weed is not. Weed doesn't even involve physical dependence. You should both inform yourself, I did.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

No, I do not condone smoking tobacco.

I started smoking weed when I was 15. Graduated high school with honors and as an all-state athlete, 1510 on my SAT, and got into a top 10 computer engineering school. I was smoking weed before school, during lunch, before practice, after practice. Basically whenever the opportunity presented itself. So yes, I'm fine with encouraging a 16 year old to, because weed doesn't determine who you are or what you do..it just makes you feel kinda funny.

I agree, leave the guy alone.

[GiadaArainai]

I think I understand why you think I should simply ignore him.. But it may be possible that he simply knew a girl he likes and that he wasn't simply really into this girlfriend? Maybe he could stop liking me the next day and understand he wants his girlfriend only, but is it so unimprobable that he's simpy not so much into this girl?
In the end I never gave him any type of confirm (I'm that type of girl who doesn't show interest, who answers late if someone writes her, who doesn't flirt with guys but prefer them to do so with her,..), I forgot to specifie tha. In fact I never flirted with him.

Thank you for your answers

[madbull79]

Hes a player , let him be, you probably deserve better!

[okwhat2013]

does weed have anything to do with a love advice forum? Seriously, geez, ok so if you smoke weed you are not allowed any relationship advice. If you like someone who isn't totally single, you have no right to ask for relationship advice. If you have slept with more 15 people you are a slut or player and get no relationship advice. If you are a perfect human being who is interested in another perfect human being, well ok then, you are at the right place we will help you...hahaha

[michelle23]

op you sound naive. hes a player. it dont matter whether hes into his gf or not. either way hes crossing a line and he will hurt you just like hes gonna hurt his gf.

you should run a mile from him.

i stand by what i said about weed. there may be a few exceptions but there rare. i wouldnt wana be with a pot head anyway. its an addiction just like any other. full stop