sexual exclusivity?

[tt808]

Guys that will commit to sexual exclusivity, but nothing else? Ever heard of a relationship where the man expects the women to be sexually exclusive to him and he promises and says he does the same, yet refuses to "title" the relationship at all? I asked him "if we aren't going to have sex with anyone else then what exactly is it we are doing?" He said, "there you go with that title thing again, I've tried to get us to place that we are both comfortable with but you insist on putting a title on it." I'm like, wtf? I don't get it.

Can anyone help me understand?

[smackie9]

It's called friends with benefits. He likes having sex but doesn't have feelings for you. Guys don't need emotional attachment to enjoy sex. If you want a relationship, don't get involved with a guy like him then, because all he wants is sex....that's it, and it won't blossom into anything else.

[michelle23]

Ya I agree-you want different things. Forget him and meet someone who wants the same as you

[lalalita]

It depends what you're really looking for. Are you looking to settle down? Or do you not mind just "having fun" with someone for awhile? I'm assuming since you're asking, you would like to be his girlfriend. If that's what you're looking for, you need to spell it out VERY clearly. (IE: "I'm looking to settle down and be in a long term relationship with someone. Are you looking for the same?") Word it in a way he can't wiggle out of. If he starts with the whole "there you go again" (oh god, I've been with men like this), simply say "If you can't talk about this, we aren't going in the same direction." and cut him off sexually.

[madbull79]

You would be suprised how far you would get with him if you would stop labeling or trying to label it. However, if it makes you that uncomfortable, cut it lose and move on.