Friends with benefits or more?

[steph87]

Hi

Ive been kind of seeing this guy for almost a year now. I first met him on a night out with my friends, nothing happened on the first night, we just chatted (from what I can remember)!
I went home that night, thought nothing of it, then I had a private message on a social networking site, he basically said "Your nice", and he sounded keen to meet up with me that night. However, I was working, he asked for my number and we met at a local pub. He gave me hints that he wanted to kiss me, and we went to his friends house. I wanted to do things with him, but didnt, not a few days anyway.

Basically, i've seen him almost every day since then, hes helped me get out of an abusive relationship, and now sleeps at my house every night. He cuddles me on the sofa, but only when my son is in bed (which i totally understand).


I really like him, but im not sure if he wants more. He compliments me every day, and says to me he loves me but since day one its always been "friends with benefits".

Does he like me more than he is letting on? He also wants to take me on holiday soon, and mentions it all the time!

Please can anyone help!

Thankyou guys! xx

[AdminOnline]

Hello steph87, welcome aboard. Enjoy your visits.

[steph87]

thankyou, just came on here for advice

[HeartIsAching]

Not sure I'm understanding your situation... are you having sex, or just cuddling?

[steph87]

having sex as well, sorry not good at wording things sometimes

[steph87]

i just want to know if anyone thinks he wants more or am i just reading into things too much (typical woman)

[steph87]

can any body help?????

[smackie9]

Just ask him for yourself......you're an adult, have the "talk" with him to settle this.

[Wakeup]

He "helped you get out of an abusive relationship" so you jumped right from the abusive relationship right into something with him and he won't define what your relationship is. Or you don't have the confidence and self esteem to ask him to define it.

You know that you're going to stay with him no matter what he calls what you two have so either learn to live with the ambiguity of it or learn to be confident and with enough self-esteem to speak open and honestly with a man you're goting to bed with and if how he defines it is not what you want, then do have the strength to leave.

Talk. To. Him.

[IndiReloaded]

i just want to know if anyone thinks he wants more or am i just reading into things too much (typical woman)

I'll take Wakeups post on communication and raise her with a "be selfish":

Stop thinking about what *he* wants. What do YOU want?

Worrying about his needs and not yours is a hallmark of insecurity. Start taking what you want from life. Your problem will be solved.

Next!