20 yr age difference?

[Wakeup]

He's out at the pharmacy getting his Viagra refilled. lol

[Emereldess]

I have spoken to him. Together we have spoken to these people and witnessed them back down and change their tunes. I am not tough and I am not clearly outspoken or opinionated. But I'm also grossly misunderstood in this thread. Not one person has given me decent feedback on why these assumptions are formed or how a person can avoid them. Like me or don't like me, that's your problem. If you don't want to talk to me like a person get the f**k off this thread. Thank you.

[Wakeup]

Well i can't talk for everyone but I'll **** off if I want to and right now I don't want to so I'll direct you to post No. 13 where I took the time to respond to your rude and insecure ass.

If there is anything else I can answer for you, please post an actual question using very few words and I'll do my best to get you clarity in your situation.

Just as an aside. You've been her less then 5 minutes and you are coming across a very unlikeable. I'm now under the impression that his family doesn't want you with him NOT because of your age difference but rather because of your superiority complex, your insecurity and the way you come across in general. I don't know you, no... but thats the way you seem just by reading your reaction to very simple observations about your May and September love affair.

[Emereldess]

May and September what does that refer to? Yours was one of the more informative responses. And I did appreciate it. Likable or not is not something that matters to me with strangers through a website. Now you are proving yourself to jump to conclusions just like the rest however. Your jab at my personality due to open mouth frustration over a website shows me you are quick to judge indeed. I could go on for hours telling you about everything I've been through, done and seen in my life and why I am where I am and who I am with, but I don't have an obligation to. All I have to say to your "opinion" of me is that until you can breathe out of my mouth and see out of my eyes, you will never know the full truth to me so don't even bother trying. I guess if I can thank you for anything it's your ignorance because I am learning quite quickly now how to deal with it and this may help me closer to home. I never came here looking for enemies but I will not take your garbage and kiss your ass in order to get a decent answer either. Thank you for your time

[Emereldess]

Well you're not obliged to be here are you? Why not go and see that old man you call your boyfriend and cheer yourself up.

You aren't either. Take your comments and leave perhaps? I don't see how your ignorance helps this situation.

[surfhb2]

I don't get why you're so upset? Wakeup spent a great deal of time helping you because this is what she likes to do. The answer to your question is: No, there's no stopping the negative behavior of others.

You have been given some great advice....use it. Lol

[Emereldess]

Lol yes well this whole discussion is certainly giving me more back bone I suppose and making me care less and less what people think of me

[surfhb2]

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[surfhb2]

Lol yes well this whole discussion is certainly giving me more back bone I suppose and making me care less and less what people think of me

Sweeeeeet!!

[Wakeup]

May and September what does that refer to?

you are the "may" he is the "september" its an old saying that gives a label to relationships with great age difference.

Yours was one of the more informative responses. And I did appreciate it.

You didn't show that you appreciated it. I'm not a mind reader. Is this how you treat your future relatives? Make them assume that you appreciate what they do for you but outright tell them how you don't like what they do?

Likable or not is not something that matters to me with strangers through a website.

I don't care what matters to you or not, I'm just pointing out the fact.

Now you are proving yourself to jump to conclusions just like the rest

No jumping to conclusions.. like I said you are quick to judge what you've heard and the posters you've heard it from yet you never acknowledged one person who helped you (never mind me not anyone)
If we're talking about judging I suggest you look in the mirror Miss Judgey judge.

Your jab at my personality due to open mouth frustration over a website shows me you are quick to judge indeed. I could go on for hours telling you about everything I've been through, done and seen in my life and why I am where I am and who I am with, but I don't have an obligation to.

no you don't and we don't care but if you come to an open forum and ask for opinions and advice we (most of us anyway) around her will give you the truth. You don't like the truth and you are disappointed that you didn't hear what you wanted to. Don't deny it because it's obvious.

All I have to say to your "opinion" of me is that until you can breathe out of my mouth and see out of my eyes, you will never know the full truth to me so don't even bother trying.

I based my observation on what you've disclosed here and how you handle things that are not to your own personal agenda. You, in my opinion are having trouble with your future inlaws because of how you respond and interrelate with them in general. You don't handle not getting your own way very well. Does that translate out in the real world? I'll never know and I'll never care.. just something for you to think about and maybe change up if there's any truth to it.

I guess if I can thank you for anything it's your ignorance because I am learning quite quickly now how to deal with it and this may help me closer to home. I never came here looking for enemies but I will not take your garbage and kiss your ass in order to get a decent answer either. Thank you for your time

No need to kiss my ass or anyone elses you simply have to change your own attitude and you'll find that you're more liked by your bf's family and when you're more liked, they'll start to accept that you're good enough for their son/etc.

Right now, he thinks you're good enough for him but they don't..

[Wakeup]

Lol yes well this whole discussion is certainly giving me more back bone I suppose and making me care less and less what people think of me

"You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time."
Abe Lincoln/P.T. Barnum ?

[surfhb2]

As a 44 year old male, this thread reminds me why I don't date girls in thier 20s. Lol !

[Emereldess]

you are the "may" he is the "september" its an old saying that gives a label to relationships with great age difference.

You didn't show that you appreciated it. I'm not a mind reader. Is this how you treat your future relatives? Make them assume that you appreciate what they do for you but outright tell them how you don't like what they do?

I don't care what matters to you or not, I'm just pointing out the fact.

No jumping to conclusions.. like I said you are quick to judge what you've heard and the posters you've heard it from yet you never acknowledged one person who helped you (never mind me not anyone)
If we're talking about judging I suggest you look in the mirror Miss Judgey judge.
no you don't and we don't care but if you come to an open forum and ask for opinions and advice we (most of us anyway) around her will give you the truth. You don't like the truth and you are disappointed that you didn't hear what you wanted to. Don't deny it because it's obvious.

I based my observation on what you've disclosed here and how you handle things that are not to your own personal agenda. You, in my opinion are having trouble with your future inlaws because of how you respond and interrelate with them in general. You don't handle not getting your own way very well. Does that translate out in the real world? I'll never know and I'll never care.. just something for you to think about and maybe change up if there's any truth to it.
No need to kiss my ass or anyone elses you simply have to change your own attitude and you'll find that you're more liked by your bf's family and when you're more liked, they'll start to accept that you're good enough for their son/etc.

Right now, he thinks you're good enough for him but they don't..

This is not a competition on who's better with words. I don't like what I'm hearing because it does not answer my question. I'm not stupid. Miss "Judgey Judge". A bit childish, no? You are female, correct? Is this not an ask the male forum? I simply wanted opinions on the younger half in a large age gap relationship. Does that spell it out a bit better for you? As well as why these opinions are formed and what a person in my shoes could do to deter such a thing.

You know his inlaws? How nice, maybe ask them what they think of me and you would be shocked lol. You are proving nothing to me but the fact that you bolster a "know-it-all" appearance. Perhaps you are the one dealing with insecurities?

You don't "care" yet you take it upon yourself to continue responding to me in an ever competitive way. Go ahead. It is not going to make a difference in my life whether you say something or not.

I'm sorry I did not "show" appreciation for your comments, but your first one was fairly informative. The rest are simply garbage to me, put bluntly. I don't need your "world revolves around me" bull shit and I especially don't care for your blind judgement.

In the matter of your last couple posts, you are criticizing my personality and going on about how ungrateful and selfish etc. I am but you fail to acknowledge plain discontent due to the fact that so many people are jumping on one silly answer to a question that could have millions of answers. I am frustrated. And I stated that I've noticed a few of the users who have commented have bashed other people doing EXACTLY what I did, ASKING A QUESTION. If I was someone else and posted on here that I love my... Hell, I don't know, female teacher bla bla bla I'm a lesbian and I like someone way too old for me what do I do... I guarantee that instead of anything HELPFUL? people would be bashing her down and saying she's screwed up in the head, etc. etc. THAT is what is frustrating me about this website, THAT is why I said something rather rude previously. Prove to me otherwise and maybe I'll even take it back and apologize, no? I simply stated the truth.

Thanks!

[Emereldess]

As a 44 year old male, this thread reminds me why I don't date girls in thier 20s. Lol !

Don't judge someone by their age lol, women in their 20's have lots to teach a man in his 40's or whatever age he is at, and vice versa. I am quite happy in my relationship thanks

[searock]

Emeraldess, the advice you were given by pretty much everyone on this thread is this:

People will always judge other people. There's nothing you can do to make it change, you can only change your perception of it.

It's not rocket science, it's actually common sense. I don't understand why you get so angry for reading something so obvious.