Urgent Advice on situation with my EX!

[grampacookie]

I have a really complicated story with my ex

we were together for 6 months we loved each other very very much we had a very intense relationship (love wise) after we broke up we didn't speak for 2-3 months. After that she came back saying that no one could replace me without wanting to get back together. A few weeks passed and she told me that she missed me that she wanted me back. I was still very deeply in love with her agreed. We stayed together 1 week throughout that week I could feel that something was wrong that our relationship was not natural, I felt as if she forced herself. She broke up with me after that one week. She told me she wanted to stay friends, I told her that I didn't want to because I wanted to "forget her" first. So we stopped talking for another two weeks. I started somewhat to forget her during those two weeks but was still very much attached to her. She came back again after those two weeks saying that she could not live without me. Me being an idiot agreed again.

We stayed together two weeks. I could she that she was very in love with me and that she was sorry to have left me before we had one of the best two weeks ever maybe even better then when we were together. After one week of being together I tried to have a sexual relation with her. (we use to have sex when we were together) and she told me that something was bothering her. She had come sort of blockage where she couldn't do anything with me. She left me saying that she was sorry but that didn't want to handicap me (this was in march) since then our relationship has been rather chaotic we had sex a couple of times we really act as a couple without being one but she only does that when no one else is around.

I went crazy a couple of times saying that I wanted to "turn the page" and start over without talking to her for a few days and then ending up talking to her since I couldn't take it anymore, to be honest with you I did this about 4 times since the last time we broke up. I also gave her a few ultimatums saying its either me or nothing and I never want to see you again. No success. every time I talk to her about it she seems to change the topic of the conversation we're having. It's been about one week since I started talking to her again Because I don't really see myself not talking to her. I asked her one question. I told her that she could use from 1 day to 1 year to make up her mind I simply asked her whether she wanted to be "friends" "or together" she took about 4 days to answer and she said "friends". I respected her choice with a lot of confusion. it's been about one week now where I tried to be very "friend like" no hugs, no kisses, no physical contact. just a completely normal friend to friend relationship. We started again.. kissing, hugs all the things that lovers do. I mean we just can't help our self.
I mean i clearly see that she loves me right now there no doubt about it. we're crazy about each other. When i asked her if the choice she made about being friends was honest she said yes. so asked her so you don't love me anymore and she just won't answer that question. I just can't seem to why she doesn't want to admit that she love me and wants to be with me again...


ANY ADVICE IS GREAT ADVICE

[stev123]

First of all you never give anyone ultimatums, secondly she's your ex for a reason if she wanted to be with you she would have already done it. All she's doing now is using you for attention whoring and a little emotional tampon. Ditch her, stop talking to her and find another woman, this one is playing mind games on you believe me you have to resist and say no, or she will continue to use you like the slut she is. Take my advice on it, I have had experiences like these and you shouldnt let them get away with it, you probably feel like you wont find anyone etc etc, but trust me you will. This cunt isnt worth it

[Wakeup]

Oh for goodness sakes. You've been interacting with her for a very measly 6 months and in that time you've broken up with her numerous times, you've had sexual problems, she's a raving ****ing lunatic and you keep taking her back, you say you don't want to be just friends and then you go right on just to be "just friends" and back and forth and back and forth you go so that makes YOU just as lunaticy as her.

Cut ALL contact with her. Stay away FOR-EVER not just two bloody weeks and eventually you'll get to the stage of indifference to her and her lunacy.

"Love" is not what you discribed you two are in. It's not anything like love so stop saying "clearly she loved me"