My boyfriend and I have been together 11 months. We get along awesomely. Everyone said that we get along so well and that we were the perfect couple. His neighbors went out of their way to tell me how great we were together and they'd never seen him happier. He and I had so many good times and so much in common. We'd finish sentences and well, it was like we were old souls. He was always affectionate with me. We connected on every single level, sex was great, everything perfect. I met his family, he met mine and would come over to my parent's for dinner every Sunday. I am 35 and live alone and he's 37 and lives alone. He's getting his life on track, he had lost his job, he went back to school and is on the right path.
Everything was perfect. Wednesday we had a normal day together for us.
Last night I was a little suspicious about why he had deleted a pic of us on facebook and started to wonder why he had cancelled two family events. So I confronted him and he had reasonable explanations. The fb thing was a total accident and he had cancelled two events one because his father was recovering from surgery and he wanted to hang with him while his family went out. The other thing was he had wanted to hang out with his cousin and his cousin's kids after his cousin had finally gotten them for the weekend. They are extremely close. I asked if he was unhappy and he said no. Then he said that he was nervous and scared about it and that he thought we got serious too soon. I asked him why he thought that and he said he just felt that way. He said that he loved me and everything about me and hanging out with me but he didn't love me as much as he thought I loved him. I was completely blindsided. He said that he wasn't sure about things and he didn't want to hurt me. I point blankly asked him three times if he wanted to break up with me and he said no. All three times. I asked if there was someone else and he said no. He said he hasn't even looked at other girls. Long story short, we agreed to take a break from things so he and I could think about things. We were supposed to go to a wedding tomorrow and now we aren't. A little background: he is divorced from his first wife, they were married six years, he's been divorced for 4. I haven't spoken to him nor have I heard from him. I love him with everything I have. Everyone is saying that he got cold feet about the relationship. I feel that may be the case but I am also wondering what happened in a day that everything went wrong.
I asked him also when we had this discussion if he was ever going to say anything about how he felt about things and he said yes. I don't get it, he did almost a complete 180 on me. I'm crushed to say the least. I almost feel like calling him and breaking up with him to end it. But on the other hand, I love him and I don't want to trash a good thing based on one conversation and one doubt. Any thoughts?