Seeking a Male perspective...

[lishieloo]

Hi
I am hoping that some impartial male advice may help me with the dilemma I find myself in
I have know the guy for over three years and we have seen each other off and on during this time, due to it not quiet being the right fit due to location and work etc.... he has been working abroad for nearly a year now and during this time we have grown a lot closer, a day doesn't go by without us being in communication. He i a fair bit older than me but this is not a problem... the problem is that during the time we have grown closer i have developed serious feelings for him and on reflection I have realised I have felt this way from the first time we met... being someone who wears her heart on her sleeve I have told him that i am crazy about him and want nothing more than to be with him... which he seemed to take ok he didn't run a mile and seems to like me a lot too but i know he is a lot more guarded than me an keeps his cards close to his chest. Now i guess the issue i have is that i don't know how to move on as he say we are on hold due to him being away but that he doesn't want me to be with other people...this to me is a contradiction as i have no idea what on hold means and feel we can work the fundamentals out (be it along distance relationship) but that he need to open up and reveal some of himself...? I am too scared to move on as I don't want to miss my chance with him as i feel he is the first person i have truly loved and I don't want to waste another year being as he says "on hold" we we could be starting something amazing if he would just give me a chance... (some additional information-normally i am the easiest going girl, i do not over think things and I dont sweat the small stuff, however where he is concern i seem to hang on his ever move/word and turn to jelly)

looking forward to any opinions.....

[stev123]

He said that he wants you to not be with anyone yet he's working abroad. Fair enough, that's understandable, but he needs to act upon that if he's really into you. If he's just saying that and is getting some on the side then I think it's better for you to move on. Why doesn't he visit you? if you too are madly in love I'm pretty sure I would visit. Anyway I can't give you detailed advice because I don't know the situation as well as you. But if I was you I would play my cards very carefully because you two aren't seeing each other, only texting and what not...you really don't know him as well as you think.

[lishieloo]

He says he isnt seeing anyone else and i trust him.... he does visit when home and we spend most of that time together... it is really tricky as i am the one who should know the situation but its a huge battle between my head and heart