Originally Posted by
Jessica1
we're basically friends who have sex? however, its not following ANY of the FWB rules.
we cuddle, go on dates, talk after sex...i stay over his house past 10am lol.
i dont mind it---i like having a dear friend to **** because its not emotionless...i also dont have the urge to get back together..i dont want to marry him--he has too many problems.
however, i am single and i want sex...however, i dont like casual sex with someone i hardly know :/
its hard.
am i really being used? i mean....wow, idk.
SHOULD I TALK TO HIM ABOUT THIS?
I dont want to be a bitch and just drop him or tell him to **** off. i kind of want to discuss this with him first. what should i say??
If you are fine with the arrangement and you are'nt hurting to be his exclusive girlfriend then who the eff are we to tell you any different?
No! You are NOT being used ~ not anymore then you're using him anyway. The only thing you should be careful of is falling into being lazy in finding someone that will be everything to you; friend, lover, exclusive partner.
If you want more then what you are currently getting from him then you are doing yourself no favors by settling for him being your human dildo and you being his warm wet place to masturbate.
If you're enjoying it and not wanting anything more, then so be it. Just don't fool yourself into thinking you're okay with it if you're not.
*To answer your actual question: Just tell him straight what you want and let him tell you if he can give it to you or not, then, depending on his answer, you make an informed decision as to what is truly in your own best interests. The important thing is to actually know what YOU want before you tell him.
Last edited by Wakeup; 07-07-13 at 02:51 AM.
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