please help!dont know what to do or think

[jason112]

i will try to make this short but i need to give some background so that u know excactly whats going on. im 28 shes 18 and still lives at home. we have been dating for bout 2 months, her mom has known the whole time but her dad has not. we became very close very fast. her mom loves me and thanks that im the best thing that has ever happend to her. so i decide that we shouldnt hide this from her dad so i told her she should tell him.

she told him and he totallly freaked out..told her that she couldnt see me for at least 1 year, or whenever she moves out..she decide after that that she didnt care what her dad thought that she wanted to be with me and didnt want to lose me. so after about a week i could tell that she was down because her dad hadnt spoken a word to her since she told him. so we decided we should break up and she was going to talk to her dad a few days later. well after we broke up she cried for 3 days bout how she wants to be with me and she said that even if we had to wait a year she didnt want me to go anywhere. she felt bad for saying it but i was glad to hear her say that.

well after those 3 days everything changed. she became short and distant and i didnt know what to think.. so for 2 days i would ask her what was wrong and she would say she didnt want to talk about it, that she gets to emotional so she doesnt want to talk about it. during the last 2 weeks we were together there was a guy asking her out and calling her all the time. but she had told him she wasnt interested. well after 2 days of not knowing what she was feeling i was getting upset.

well i looked at the guys cell phone, he was a friend of mine, and i saw that they had been texting each other. so i became mad and i text her that i cant believe she was talking to him and that u had my heart and u really hurt me. and the fact that u have hid this from me proves that something is going on. well she text me back that she would call me later, and i told her no, that she didnt owe me any explantion and that i would never be able to trust her again. so she didnt call that night so the next day i called her. asked her if she wanted to work this out or not. and she said that i told her that i could never trust her agian and that she doesnt think it would be worth it... she said that if im not dating anyone in a year and shes not then we can try again.but she didnt tell me that she wanted me to wait. she said that it wasnt fair to me...and we hung up.

i dont really know what to think.. she never metioned my friend never denied that anything was going on or never said that something was. i told her well if u change your mind call me cause im not calling u and she got kinda mad..asking me why cant i call her? and i said cause im leaving it up to u. she said that she needed a few days to clear her head and think bout everything. so i said fine and we hung up..

my questions are is she talking to my friend? is she going to call? do i call her? its been 3 days and i havent called and all my friends tell me that i shouldnt call cause thats what she thinks u are going to do even know u told her u werent.. is it over or is she just really thinking bout what to do? and how does someone go from loveing me so much to cry about us for 3 days, to acting totally different? please help, any advice would be great..
thank u

[jason112]

please help i really am heart broken and need to know what i should do.. should i just wait for her to call? will she call if she does really care, and if nothing is going on with this other guy? or is she just totally through with me cause she is talking to this other guy? please girls help me....im desprate on what to do and need to know what u think

thank you

[jason112]

sorry i just have 1 more question. am i doing the right thing by not contacting her? i mean i no that people are a fan of the no contact but i just want to know in my situation am i doing the right thing by waiting for her to call me?

[misombra]

you are too old for this girl. find yourself somebody your own age.

[shh!]

I agree with the previous post, and would like to add that you shouldn't be expecting an 18 year old to be acting like a grown woman. She can't even buy a cocktail yet, for crying out loud. Move on, it sounds like things are over for you two. Sorry, I doubt that is what you were hoping to hear.

BTW, it was really crappy of this girl's mother to betray her husband by keeping this whole thing a secret, so I wouldn't be too impressed with her liking you so much. It sounds like she has difficulty knowing to whom she should be loyal.

[mini696]

Thats creepy *I hear jailbait*. Your too old for her IMO.

I'd forget about getting back together. Easier said than done though.

I'd be having some "not so nice" words with your mate too, and ask him what the hell he is doing, how old is he?

Mick

[Tone]

It's too bad about her father reacting like that...

but then you go poppin off at the mouth and tell her things that she believes and now you're mad and upset? Tell her not to call cause you guys shouldn't talk anymore then you call her the next day? Maybe I misread things.. which of you is the 18 year old again?

[roxamillion]

You need to move on. First of all she is to young and second you will always have trust issues with her and it just wont work. You seem like a nice guy....you will find the right girl someday.