going with your gut feeling

[lewisjackson]

does everyone actually go with their gut feeling. sometimes it can be wrong i think

i know a few years ago i was dating a girl and i had a feeling she was cheating on me. i did some investigation and turns out she wasn't. we ended up breaking up because she couldn't handle me always thinking she was cheating on me, due to my gut feeling. I think if you tell yourself she is cheating, it can give you that gut feeling when you are wrong actually

anyone have any stories?

[clairedunham]

I have my doubts with my boyfriend and he tells me no. It's really our minds and insecurities. If she was cheating and you were a secure, confident person that really loved her and you loved yourself also you wouldn't be worrying until someone told you or she herself confessed.

[clairedunham]

I don't have stories but sometimes it is only you that knows that person and their behaviour and it is why you get the gut feeling.

[surfhb2]

Sorry but "gut feeling" only work in making decisions based on facts you know are true. So don't be a dummy next time.

[namemyname]

While I do believe in the concept of self-fulfilling prophecy, I also trust my intuition a lot. It's rarely wrong. I get messed up when I ignore it, actually.

But, sometimes we do work towards a sabotaging outcome, regardless of our intention.

[Millie]

As far as my husband and close friends and family go I trust my instinct, it's never yet steered me wrong, though I'm lucky that the important people in my life are very honest people - they have other faults for sure, but being truthful isn't one of them.

As far as strangers or people I don't know very well go, I tend to ignore what my gut tells me and give then the benefit of the doubt because my instinct is often wrong (i.e. people I don't like on first impressions tend to grow on me and people I like on first impressions often disappoint me over time). Maybe I'm just strange lol.

[Villo]

I don't believe anyone who says their "gut" has never been wrong. That's just silly. Nothing in this world works perfectly. If all it took was relying on a "gut feeling" to get through life, we'd have no need for facts, logical deduction, accumulated knowledge, instruments fine-tuned to act as quantitative gauges, etc. What people call a "gut feeling" is, at least in part, a subconscious accumulation of knowledge based on repeated experiences. So maybe "something just tells me" I don't like a certain person, and I tell myself I'm not sure why I feel that way. But then if I think harder, it occurs to me that his body language or speech breaks are similar to some people I once knew who were dishonest.

[michelle23]

i trust my instincts. they have not let me down before when it comes to men. in general i have no trust issues and feel secure and confident in myself. and any time in the past that i felt something was wrong-i trusted myself and walked away. i was dating a guy for about 8months when i was 17. first 7months no issues. then i suspected something so i dumped him-a week later i found out i was right.

i remember two guys i went on a few dates with also. got a bad feeling, didnt bother seeing either of them again and in the following months i heard a lot of bad things about both that proved my instincts right.

i think if your the insecure paranoid type or if you smoke weed etc-then you prob shouldnt trust your gut but iv never been the paranoid jealous type so i do trust my intuition. if something feels wrong it usually is