umm... another dating situation

[inkeepingsecret]

Hey guys, i feel as though i need to vent. So bare with me

Here's the situation

Known this girl for about 3 months. She's my roomates, gf's sister. I've known that she liked/likes me since 2 months ago, her sister told me. I didnt like her so much, but now i find myself thinking about her quite often. For the last few weekends she has been sleeping in my bed.

She's a virgin. A bit of a prude. When i was was younger i was very shy with girls, but not so much anymore. This girl is also very shy, in turn making me shy as hell. The other night my roomate tells me (we were drunk) that if i played my cards right she would have sex. That night we get home, and i choose not to. I thought about it a lot the next day, and i realised i didnt want to, not now anyways. Sex just is not the same if you dont love someone.

Since my breakup 7-9 months ago, i've dated a few girls, where sex has come into play early on, and im sick of it. The thing is, i didnt care for them all that much, and after sex i lost respect, the anticipation was gone. I went into every situation looking to just have some fun, knowing i wasnt ready to jump into anything. Therefore, bringing those relationships to an end. With this girl im starting to have "those feelings," but all i get from her is mixed signals. This is the first time, in a long time i really look forward to seeing someone. Not just when im drunk.

When we are alone in my bed everything is great. We flirt, laugh, talk, cuddle, all that stuff. When we say, are just hanging out with friends, its weird, we dont really talk to each other.

With this girl things are different, in a conventional "dating sense"
- I dont have her phone number
- we have yet to go on a date

Earlier today i asked my rommie about her, and he thinks that she just wants to have some fun, but hes not sure.

This game has been going on for a month or so now. SHe slept with me the last 4 nights, and nothing has changed. Cuddling/hook up/ sleep

Im sick of things being up in the air. The way i look at it is this. I can
- talk to her, tell her how i feel, and see what she says
- continue to "hook up" week in and week out
- start going out, like i did before, and ignore her for a bit
- tell her that i dont want her to sleep in my bed anymore (not likely)

sorry for the rambling

any thoughts?

[shh!]

Communication is probably a good idea.

[clynn]

How about.........

.........ask her out on a date, to go do something.......you can do this during one of your sleepovers if you're uncomfortable broaching it during the light of day. And then once the subject has been broached you can bring it up again during the day to confirm....

Good luck, fill us in!

[inkeepingsecret]

How about.........

.........ask her out on a date, to go do something.......you can do this during one of your sleepovers if you're uncomfortable broaching it during the light of day. And then once the subject has been broached you can bring it up again during the day to confirm....

Good luck, fill us in!

I asked her to go out a few times. She did come to a party with me once, but it wasnt exactly to date. The thing is, i dont have her phone number so it would be hard for me to set a date, and then try to get a hold of her. Her parents a weird about guys calling. They are just weird in general. This girl has been a bit sheltered in life, she has never even been to one day of school. Homeschooled her entire life.

[Tone]

... so one of these days when she's in your bed with you get her phone number, Einstein.

[inkeepingsecret]

... so one of these days when she's in your bed with you get her phone number, Einstein.

man, watch the sarcasm

I did ask her, but her parents are weird about guys calling her house

[Asip4u]

I say continue to hang out and you'll get somewhere eventually...What's the rush anyways, right? It doesn't sound like you'll be calling her so just keep hanging out and things will progress.

[inkeepingsecret]

I say continue to hang out and you'll get somewhere eventually...What's the rush anyways, right? It doesn't sound like you'll be calling her so just keep hanging out and things will progress.

You know what? I was thinking the same thing today. It doesnt make any sense to rush things. Im sure she doesnt want to be rushed either. The thing is, she is younger, and less experienced. Women who are older, genarally want to know where things are headed. Im not going to worry about it too much.

I think, in a way, the more things are up in the air, the more i am attracted towards her. Im not used to this kind of thing. Im feeling a bit better today. Thanks

[Tone]

so one of these days while she's in your bed ask her out on a date.

[Asip4u]

The thing is, she is younger, and less experienced.
Women who are older, genarally want to know where things are headed. Im not going to worry about it too much.

Exactly so just take your time with her.

I think, in a way, the more things are up in the air, the more i am attracted towards her. Im not used to this kind of thing. Im feeling a bit better today. Thanks

Good point and that's how you should continue seeing it.

[artyemi]

Wow. I'm gone for a few days and you're on to another chick, IKS?

Ouch.

So how come she's been sleeping over at your place?

This weekend, I got to listen to a story about how this couple transitioned from being friends to dating.

It goes like this. They just started hanging out with each other more. Then, it progressed to holding hands. Then to kissing. Then, it was just dating. Then moving in together and on and on.

Seems like you've already passed some of that.

If she's the shy type, she's probably waiting for you to push the bounds a little. But if you're the shy type too, then, hmmm, you're probably waiting for her to push the bounds a little.

[inkeepingsecret]

Wow. I'm gone for a few days and you're on to another chick, IKS?

Ouch.

Patience is a virtue I have yet to obtain
hehe


You met someone too!

Maybe i'll drop by your thread and hang for awile.

[artyemi]

Come on by and bring some breakfast. Or lunch.

So, you seeing her again this weekend?

[inkeepingsecret]

ummm who knows? I guess, if she shoes up she shows up. As for me, im heading out. I have stayed in the last few weekends, and im not about to sweat her.

Last weekend a funny thing happend. Early monday morning around 5AM, i woke up for no reason, and i see her at my door. I thought i was dreaming, but then i wake up at 8 and she's next to me.... Weird i tell ya