Help!!!!

[Pixie]

Hi all, I'd really appreciate it if anybody on here could help me out a bit!
My b/f is 9 years younger than me, i'm 31 he's 22, we've been together for 3 years, and get on really well.
However he's totally crap at any form of even mild confrontation, and tends to..well not lie but withhold the truth from me, which really does crack me up.
The more recent is this....I was away for a night (out with my sister), and got back to find he's been looking up an actress on the net, I really have no problem with this, but when asked he gets really defensive, so later i notice he's watched a video, i asked what film he's watched his reply...don't know, think he's been watching a cheesy porn film, especially as there was a screwed up t-shirt on the bed, which he quickly whipped away and hid in the laundry basket. This is all fine, i really don't care that much, but my issue is that he doesn't tell me, even if i've sussed it all out. WHY?????? makes me really suspicious of him and that = no trust, not good.
Sorry i know its a long first post, but i need some advice.
Thanks peeps
xxx

[shh!]

He sees you as a mother figure (not helped by your age difference) and doesn't wish to be "punished" by you, hence the lies. If these activities are really not a problem for you, then why are you even asking about them?

[Pixie]

Good point, just hate dishonesty i guess, So how do i get around the mother figure issue? any ideas?

[whaywardj]

Assuming there IS a mother figure issue, if you are living together, have him take more responsibility in the planning and maintenance of the household. If you are not living together, delicately alert him to how childish he's being when he does things you feel are immature. Alternately (or simultaineously), whilst making love, encourage him to masturbate in front of you. You masturbate in front of him, as well. Either or all those things will dispel any notions he might have you're his mother. Or will make him run scared with his hair on fire away from you. Either way, you win.

[Pixie]

Lol thanks, that last bit made me laugh.
I will certainly try and give it a go.
The age difference really hasn't been a problem in the past, but i think that maybe its catching up a bit.
Ah and he cooked the dinner tonight, which is a rare occasion indeed.