First Date with Guy I Didn't Expect to Like & Feelings....

[ladyluck87]

Alright, so I'm on a dating website, and this guy and I had awesome conversation pretty much ALL day on the 1st. We talked a little bit more through out the week but not as much. Then on Wednesday night he drops a bomb shell on me...he is moving to Korea and isn't looking to start anything of course because he leaves at the end of month. Immediately, I start laughing, and I am like "This dude only wants sex and is making all of this up." and he then proceeds to ask me when or if I would still like to keep talking to him and if I want to go out. I said "Okay, Friday we can hang out." Because I knew what he was looking for, I said "WTH! I'll get some dinner and drinks out of this loser and call it a day for him." Also let's NOT forget to mention that I have a child and he put on his page that he would only use a woman with a kid for sex and I saw he was registered on some NSA sites as well(Google is your friend...use it). My friends encouraged me to go out and have fun and of course knowing what I knew of him to not take him seriously at all, so I went.

The date was the POLAR opposite. Here I was waiting ALL night(with eager anticipation) to completely reject him and his advances. He was very gentle and sweet to me. We completely clicked, laughed, and talked all night and it was completely comfortable. We danced and got pretty wasted together. When we were on the date, he just blurts out, "I really like you." and I was like "I like you too and it sucks that you are leaving." and he said "I would meet you when I am leaving which really sucks" and I said "Well, why are you on a dating website if you are about to leave anyway?" and I really don't remember his answer but I do remember him saying he was a picky dater and that he had to be attracted and really like someone to want to go out with them; he said he had only been on two dates from that website prior to our meeting. I took it for what it was worth and said "Okay"

We took a taxi back to his house since we had both been drinking, and he had a spare room in his house and told me that he thought I should stay and not drive since I had been drinking. He went upstairs to go to his room and I just remember asking him to stay with me because I felt really sick and didn't want to be alone. We slept in the bed without so much as touching one another. I got up the next morning and he walked me to my car and gave me a hug and he texted me a while later to make sure I made it home alright. But we haven't talked that much since yesterday around noon. : (

That was the best date I have ever been on with the person that I least expected to even actually like. Considering his expressed views on single moms and his NSA memberships...lmbo, I am seriously wondering why he didn't try me at all or anything.

[lalalita]

I'm confused as to what advice you're seeking.

[Ann S]

Maybe he's just a nice guy who didn't want a one night stand with a drunk woman. Ann

[ladyluck87]

Maybe he's just a nice guy who didn't want a one night stand with a drunk woman. Ann

True, but he was drunk as well. We both had hangovers the next day.

[searock]

What exactly do you want advice on?

[ladyluck87]

What exactly do you want advice on?

1) He said he liked me and hated that we are meeting when he is about to leave...but yet he made such disparaging remarks about single moms?

2) He said he would only pursue a single mom for a sexual relationship which he didn't pursue with me at all. Why?

3) We have talked but minimally since then. Why?

[searock]

1) He said he liked me and hated that we are meeting when he is about to leave...but yet he made such disparaging remarks about single moms?

2) He said he would only pursue a single mom for a sexual relationship which he didn't pursue with me at all. Why?

3) We have talked but minimally since then. Why?

1) Someone who says something like that about single moms is not someone I would want to be involved with. I don't understand why you do.

2) We cannot possibly know why he didn't try to have sex with you. We can only speculate.

3) See answer to question 2.

It sounds like he isn't interested in a second date. Just move on.

[namemyname]

1) He said he liked me and hated that we are meeting when he is about to leave...but yet he made such disparaging remarks about single moms?

2) He said he would only pursue a single mom for a sexual relationship which he didn't pursue with me at all. Why?

3) We have talked but minimally since then. Why?

This guy insulted you and devalued you before you met, and you still went to meet him. (?) That alone spoke volumes on your low self-esteem, so to a guy like that, you were easy bait. It's like a nice Jewish girl going to meet a skinhead, after he's railed his anti-Semitic beliefs.

When he met you in person, I don't think he was sexually attracted to you. Could be because he didn't find you pretty or sexy, or, could be your total doormat personality turned him off.

And, he's off to the next girl.

[ladyluck87]

LOL!!! So yesterday we were texting back and forth and he was going on and on about he is moving and isn't looking for a relationship anyway to be honest. I was confused on that comment because I said I liked him and he was cool to continue being friends with but I never once asked for a relationship. He was like "Well the other night when we were drinking you kept saying "All you want is sex and I know it." and I said "I said that really?" and then I said, "Well if I said that it's because that's the perception that I have of you based off of your own behavior, and I am quite aware of that. However, I had no idea that I said that though." I told him I was alright with not talking to him and I appreciated his honesty;he was like "Everyone says that until they are slapped in the face with it." and I said "LOL. No, I am really alright with it though." I then explained, "Well, to be even more fair and honest though, you never took me seriously because I am a single mother. I know that. And I said that's one of the REAL reasons that I didn't want to go out with you in the first place though. However you kept pressing so I went out to have a good time and I wound up liking you a little more than what I did initially but again I had a great time with you but lets be real. I just never took the time to ask you about it." and his reply is, "Ok. Please don't go there with the single mother thing. I don't know what question you are trying to ask but it's whatever now." and I said "Oh. Lo k sea?(It's Whatever in Spanish). LOL! Okie dokie. I will leave you to yourself then."

WTH?! Like you're text messaging me telling me that we won't see each other again and all this stuff and just running foolish game it seems. But you're mad because I question you on something you've clearly stated?! -shrugs-