So ive found myself here seeking some advice. I hooked up with this girl 6 months ago at a club and that was it. A lot of guys were dancing around her and trying her luck but as soon as I came past, we danced and hooked up within minutes. We were both drunk though. Anyway we haven't had any contact but I have seen her around twice since from the 1st-4th of June and I caught her looking at me a few times and when I walked past her, she just smiled and walked straight past me.
Anyway I came across this girl on the 5th of June at another club again and I didn't want to let this chance slip up again and we danced and held hands all night. I asked for her number at the end of the night before she left and she gave me it. She texted me immediately within 20 minutes and told me to be good for the rest of the night and she also told me to message her when I got home so that she knew I was safe. I found that very cute. Anyway we began speaking via text messages (very long ones too) and kept sending each otehr about 2 long text messages a day every day until the 12th of June. I sent the last text message and haven't heard back from her since. I don't know if I screwed up anywhere or not so that is why I am here seeking advice as to why she may not have replied to my last messages. What am I thinking?
- Have I scared her off? Our conversations were running smoothly until she asked me when my last relationship was. Both our last relationships were in 2010. I told her 2010 and then I proceeded to tell her why I haven't been in a relationship since and honestly I talked myself up to sound like the perfect boyfriend. I have a rough side to me though and she knows that and she also said a day before that I can be cute when I want to be. But I hope I haven't scared her by talking myself up even though I never proclaimed to her that I am interested in her although after she asked me what i had planned for the weekend, I told her ill be having a quiet one this weekend because I am sick but I hope we can catch up once i get better and she said that would be a good idea but I first needed to focus on getting better.
- Do I look too clingy? We both (key word is both) have been sending each other 2 really long text messages every day for 6 days..... I sent her the last message and she hasn't replied so I haven't bothered texting her since even though its been 4 days..... But does sending really long text messages make me look clingy even though she replies with long text messages back?
- Is she just playing hard to get because she is such a beautiful girl.
- How I think she sees me? I know she finds me cute as she was pinching my cheeks a few times throughout the night and kept calling me cute.... She wasn't even drunk this night whereas I was.... The fact she told me to message her when i got home so that she knew I was safe (because I can be a little rough) made thinsg cute.... She knows ive got a bit of roughness to me but she also knows that I can be good when I wanna be.... But that roughness translate into violence when someone really gets me mad but I dont hit girls. She also sees me as quite intelligent with a good job.... But I also think that relationship talk about past partners and why I haven't got a partner might have turned her off as I was telling her I don't date anyone for the sake of dating and I must have some sort of attraction to them in order to be able to date them etc etc... So in essence, it sounded like id make the perfect boyfriend without mentioning any affection towards her and im scared that may have turned her off.... But otherwise, looks wise I think she is attracted to me....
What do I do? Or do you think I have already screwed up and there is no chance of her speaking to me again?
Do you think she will message me back? Or do you think she is testing me out by playing hard to get and wants me to message her back? But if I do scumble and message her back, would that make me look needy after 4 days? Should I wait longer before messaging her back?
Should I just send her a cheeky joke later on in the week about a personal joke we have going on in the hope that we can start speaking again but this time keeping away from any past relationship talk and instead sending shorter messages too?
Or should I wait until I just her randomly at a club again and then start talking back with her and telling her how ive been busy and all and haven't had a chance to communicate with her? (Good chance I will see her in a months time again).
The reason why I believe I may have screwed up is because I havent recieved a text message from her in 4 days. I know she had work over the weekend but that is no excuse, she has messaged me before when she had work too so ????? is what I am thinking atm.
I will keep you updated on developments if anything happens and thank you for your advice.