i hurt her feelings i think?

[damonmark]

this afternoon i was with my girlfriend when i was talking about a car event me and my friend have gone to the lats 5 years. its always us 2, and its something we do together. my girlfriend said "well maybe i wanna go" and i said laughed and said "no its just me and mark going"

she got upset and i felt bad. its not that i dont want her to go but its always been me and my friend mark that have went. i love my girlfriend and she has met my friend and they get along but i just want to keep the cra show between me and my friend. he has never brought his girlfriend

my girl isnt clingy either. she understands if im out with the guys, she doesnt get upset

i feel that i hurt her feelings though

[Cerby]

Meh, it's "guy time", she needs to understand that. Just ask her if you hurt her feelings and explain the situation. She'll understand.

[damonmark]

thank you!!!

[smackie9]

Well it would be different if she was a car chick and was totally into the hobby like myself...but if she is just wanting to go because you are going, then that is typical needy girl shit. Tell her to have some independence and find her own thing to do. Just make sure she understands that it's not because you don't like spending time with her, but it's a healthy thing to spend time apart to enjoy things with others.

[michelle23]

just explain what you explained to us to her. thats all you an do

[damonmark]

she didnt mention it tonight and didnt seem upset

[shortchica]

For future reference, try to just be a little more sensitive in what you say to her. Rather than laugh like it's a joke, apologize and say it's something you've always done with him as a guys' thing. Tell her if she really wants to be involved in your interest in cars, that you'll take her to something similar or something related. You don't have to bring her everywhere you go, but make her feel valuable, like you want to invite her into your world. If you laugh at her when she tries to be involved, she won't try anymore. She could be needy and want to spend every second with you, or she could be genuinely interested in doing things you want to do. Give her the benefit of the doubt and try to include her in your interests, even if you don't want her to come to something you're going to with your friend.

[lakelee]

i doubt shes mad