Having a bit of trouble....

[OutOfLuck]

Well I got divorced last year, apparently I yell to much and get frustrated easily. I had everything at one point, a ton of money, a beautiful wife, etc. After the Divorce I started talking to my ex-fiance again. I went and visited her for a month and she said she wanted me to move in. I had my doubts but was such a wreck from my divorce I did it anyway. Things were ok for a while but I started noticing things...She only wore make-up when she went to bar, cell phone was pass word protected and she practically slept with the cell phone. She would vanish for extended periods of time ignoring my calls and text. When I would confront her about that she would become defensive and tell me it was "none of my business."
Well everything started to snow ball. She started wrecking my personal items, throwing my nice work shirts out in the yard. Bit my cell phone cover of the phone, and started threatening to destroy my computer. I really wanted to make this work but she was just being unreasonable. I was sick and had to go to the emergency room, when I got out I drove by the bar and she was in their playing pool with another guy. She is always touchy with other guys hugging them and stuff. This bothers me.
One night I went with her to the bar and she got upset because I bought a drink from a female bartender. She tried to hit me on the head with a beer bottle and started literally chasing me around the bar kicking and hitting me. The security guards forced her to leave, she didn't like that and called the police trying to have me arrested. She ended up getting arrested. After she got out of jail tension just got worse, she went straight back to the bar. About two weeks later she found out she was pregnant and keeps threatening to kill the un-born baby. I got upset and started raising my voice. She responded to this by hitting and kicking me again, threw my cell phone at my head and gave me a huge black eye.
I went outside and the police were already there. She got arrested again is still in jail. I love this girl to death but I don't like how she treats me in public. We went to a casino and she up and leaves with out telling me anything, forcing me to follow here so I don't have to look for her later (She cant drive because of blindness in left eye.)
Should I bail her out and try to make this work again? I want the baby and dont want her to drink and smoke while pregnant. I dont want the mother of my child in jail. But at the same time her family refuses to bail here out because they are upset about what she has done to me. I just dont know what to do any advice?

[anonymous_a]

Uhm, what the fvck are you doing with this psycho? She's an EX for a reason, and from the sounds of it, VERY GOOD REASON! Any woman who will throw a beer bottle at your head because you SPOKE to another female, needs a bitch slap. A bitch slap, for a bitch. The fact that she is pregnant makes this even worse. I hope for your sake she does get an abortion. You do NOT need that drama in your life, and she certainly does not need a child in hers! If you really want a child, then find someone who makes you HAPPY, and have a child with her. Either that, or adopt, with no strings attached to anyone else. My serious advice is to leave her, and hope she does not carry through with this so called, pregnancy.

[IslandScorp]

I can't help but ask - is this for real? I'm just going to assume that it is and give you my answer: No, you shouldn't bail her out and you should get as far away from a person like this as possible. She's completely unstable and I don't even know how you can feel that you love her or why you would. Do you even know that the baby is yours considering her behavior? Do you even know that she's really pregnant? What kind of life will you be leading if you did marry her? Not a happy one, I can tell you that with certainty right now.

[OutOfLuck]

I can't help but ask - is this for real? I'm just going to assume that it is and give you my answer: No, you shouldn't bail her out and you should get as far away from a person like this as possible. She's completely unstable and I don't even know how you can feel that you love her or why you would. Do you even know that the baby is yours considering her behavior? Do you even know that she's really pregnant? What kind of life will you be leading if you did marry her? Not a happy one, I can tell you that with certainty right now.

Yes im afraid its real, sometimes I wish I could wake up and this was all a bad dream but it isn't. To be honest I feel sorry for her, and I think she is pretty cute as a button when she wants to be. Her mom died a few years ago and she has been having problems dealing with it even though her mom had five kids with all different dads. She is heavily and debt and learned from her mom to use men for financial help. Her Aunt is Mrs. Washington (2010) and she told me on Facebook that everyone in the family is worried about her mental health(they have consider an intervention.) I am guessing they are actually thrilled she is in jail now so the court can order counseling for her. I've never had serious problems with women and im 31 years old but this takes the cake.

[anonymous_a]

Wow. You need to get away from this woman, like NOW.

[thompkevin]

Do you really love this girl to death? I sincerely believe that you are just fooling yourself into thinking that you love her 'cause of whatever reasons. Once, you leave her and start a real relationship with a sane person, you will realize that you never loved her. Also, are you sure it's your child?

[michelle23]

ffs. I thought older people were supposed to be wiser... what the hell are you doing with this woman? Why didnt you dump her already?

[VincenzoG91]

If you "love her to death," then this will be a short-lived relationship, so to speak. One of you is going to eventually get killed. Sorry to hear that there is a kid on the way, because that isn't going to fix anything, just raise the stakes for the drama. Also, I bet she won't be able to stop drinking alcohol while she is pregnant. Try to talk her into an adoption or an abortion, because she isn't fit to raise a child. Use reverse psychology if you think that might work.