Hi All,
I am married with a men who was a lovely person in the beginning, and we have kids.
We are married for 3 years and met 4 years ago.
His is constantly in touch with a woman. Things started (a bit by fault) as I agreed in the past to realise his fantasy which was to have sex with two women. So that did happen with this woman and me. After this, I stated that I don't want this to happen as this is just a "fantasy", and also I noticed they were too close: every day on the phone, or text, or see each other. He admitted me that he loves her in front of her. Several months after, he clarified and said this is not the sort of love I think, this is purely friendship love. I don't know if I have to believe as I have a little doubt he said it because I was nearly on the point to break our marriage.
I had a discussion with him and also with her, and explained my feeling about their relationship. She has no respect to call at our home (well on his mobile phone) late when our kids are in bed. We have no privacy.
They have now tried to take some distance to not see each other, but they are still in phone contact. They are missing each other when they don't see. We went recently in holidays, and they were still in touch. I am tired with this situation, and feel like someone really do not care about how I feel and our marriage.
To crown the story, he stated that she is not in love of him, and she is not trying to do anything.. instead she is in love of me. Yukkk. I strongly believe this is still a "continuous" of his fantasy, to see two women together.
I regret what happened in the past, but well, this is done, and you can not erase the past. We can only repair the present. But I am really tired to try to fix up things. There have been more than one year. And I am not getting younger. I hardly see myself in that situation in 3 years.
I am wondering if you guys believe a man can have a best friend (girl) and be in contact everyday, and miss each other when not in contact? I have best friend and very good friends, and none of them I am in touch with that often. Maybe it is me who is seeing in the wrong way.
Am I in a risky situation? I believe yes, as from an "experience-intercourse" that has progressed to love and a daily contact.
Please an external opinion will be good.
Thanks