I've been dating a girl who has never been married. She's 45 years old. She's lived with her mother for the last 20 years. A background check has confirmed her story. Her mother is in good health so it's obvious she's not there to take care of her. Although she makes about 95K a year she doesn't pay her mother anything for rent or utilities. She also doesn't have many possessions show for the money she makes.
On several occasions when she has spent the night at my house she told her mother that she was away on a business trip. Lately when I've suggested that she spend the night again she got upset with me and told me that she doesn't like lying to her mother. When I mentioned that she is a grown woman and shouldn't have to give her mother an explanation she got upset with me. I also mentioned that if she were to move into her own place she would not have to give an explanation to anyone. She didn't like that idea either.
We started seeing each other while I was still married. I was going through a divorce but not because of her. When we discuss the issue of lying to her mother she starts quoting the bible. When I bring up the fact that it seems hypocritical that she didn't have a problem with committing adultery but has a problem lying to her mother she doesn’t seem to understand.
I’m suspicious that based on what I’ve described above that she has never really grown up and may have issues with responsibility and commitment. Since she is now talking about marriage I’m starting to become concerned about these issues. Anyone have any insight or advice on this?
Thanks