hello, im in a really difficult situation now. i need help. this is quite long but i hope people wud be nice enough to read this and give suggestions over this matter because im having a hard time living my life now.
Ive been with this guy for almost 2 years. he is my best friend, i tell him everything!! i love him so much im willing to give him everything just to see him happy. he broke up with me days before our 2nd aniversary. I tried to fight for our love, begged him to talk things over, he agreed alot of times, but we always ended up arguing or him hitting me.
we have a different kind of relationship. im pure chinese and he is pure filipino. same age, same school. My mother was against this relationship so i had to keep it as a secret from the whole family. My guy knew about this, we talked about it and he agreed to wait for me until im ready to tell my family. Because of the situation, i only see him in school and went to few weekend dates. my parents are really strict so he cant visit me at home, i know its hard for him but i make it up to him by being with him and spending time with him as much as i can.. We have a normal relationship, the only difference is i cant bring him to our house and we cant go out every weekends. Cant say that feel pressured and cant move because im always around him physically like a lint because i allow him to go to paties and gimiks with his friends, d only condition is no girls and he has to tx me his whereabouts, thats all..
i can say that during the two years that we're together, we were ok, we had a lot of un together. i have a lot of FIRSTS with him. i enjoy being with him, i feel alive when we're together and im very much in love. i know he loves me too. he assures me from time to time and can see it through his actions. Well, we have problems also.
1. he was taking a vacation when we had a fight, next day he cheated on me and admitted it only after 6 months!! but i forgave him and took him back.
2. he cursed me in front of other people.
3. he hits me. he started hitting me (punching, slapping, head butt, kicking) last yr when he got irritated because i was bugging him over sumthing.
4. he is always late for our dates or meetings and i ended up waiting fro hours.
5. he doesnt give me gifts on our anniv or valentines, not even letters or simple notes (but its ok)
6. he gets mad if i call him 2x straight in a row and we end up arguing about it.
He told me that he is not satisfied with the status of our relationship and is rushing me to introduce him na to my family.. so from there, little by little i try to introduce him na to my family but everytime i set up a date for them to meet, he back sout the last minute. so napopostpone. 1 month before our anniv, he said that he was getting bored na with our relationship and wants out. i told him to give it another try, so he asked for space. i went home that night feeling all depressed. the same night, i opened his YM and found a msg from this girl calling him BABY!! i freaked out and cried and asked for explanation from the girl. my initial reaction was shocked of course!! so i called up the girl, yes i know her and she denied everything saying it was just a missent message.. my instincts tell me that shes lying so i confronted my bf and he told me not to make a big deal out of this. he later admitted that i pushed him to do those things because of my constant nagging. So for the last 1 month, i begged for him to give our love another try. he always refuses. he told me that he already tried his best and thats all he could give. I know he can do a lot more, he just doesnt want to take that step. he told me he doesnt love me anymore. he doesnt answer my calls, he even ran away when i saw him (literally). The hitting happened again when i begged for him to take me back. i begged, i cried, i pleaded but he was firm with his decision that he wants out. he told his family about our problem, he told them everything, now even his family doesnt want us to be together. that makes it harder for me.
Now i dont know what to do, im taking my thesis and in my last school yr. but i cant focus with my work because im always crying. i cry before i go to sleep, i cry when i wake up, i cry when i pray, i cry when i eat, even in the shower. im having a hard time dealing with this. i miss him so much and i want him back. i already forgave him and im so willing to give our love another chance. im hurting so bad. i try to turn to my family, i told them what happend, skipped some details but i told them the basic story.. they understand me but thats all they can do.. they allowed me to be with him, the only condition is to finish my studies.
i want him back because i dont want to see the 2 yrs that we spent together just go down the drain just like that.. i dont want him to remember me as the worst girlfriend ever. i want him to remember me as the best girlfriend he ever had. i want him to realize in the future the mistake he made by letting me go. i want him back but he refuse to talk to me. i dont know where to find him. he doesnt go to school anymore.. i dont know what to do.
please help!! i'm so desperate.. i need suggestions, advices and prayers. u can scold me for being dumb. i just want people to help me realized the fact that being with him again wud be a huge mistake.