Friend zone help!

[oklahoma]

I already posted a real long version of this, and everyone had some trouble with it. So I have revised it...



-Have been friends with this guy for about 8 years now.

-I wouldn't call us "best friends" but deff. good friends

-I dated his best friend years ago we've always had this love/hate relationship with one another that everyone was aware about

-He dated my best friend a couple of years ago.. nothing serious

- His flirty actions started about a year ago never really thought about it until recently

-Calls me all the time just to talk ..also about his girlfriend (now ex)

-Always asks me to hang out.. never alone only with our mutual friends
-But never leaves my side when we are hanging out in a group

-Constantly grabbing me, calls me babe sometimes in texts, grabbed me and put me on his lap in front of all his friends and said "you look good as my girlfriend.. doesn't (my name) look good as my girlfriend?", grabs my butt

-we all were at a friends 21st party where he rigged the spin the bottle game so it would land on me and we did kiss... (drunk though)

-When he found out that I hooked up with his best friend a few months ago he seemed stand offish about it...said "damn it could've been me" and jokingly I said oh yeah deff. but you decided to pass out on the living room floor..to which he responded ugh I know. When I said I regretted that night and that I wanted nothing to do with the best friend he seemed relieved.

-Shortly after that conversation ^^ we hung out and was talking so close to my face and a friend stared and said he was eye- fuc**ing me all night

-My friend decided she had enough of our bullshit and asked him what his deal was.. to which he responded I love her like a sister.

* I know technically I have my answer but I'm still confused about all of his actions. Idk if it's his personality.. but I never see him act that way with anyone else. I really just need other people's opinion other than my same girlfriends who are getting sick and tired of it lol. Also please do not think i'm a scum bag for kissing his best friend. I honestly got fed up with it and started to think he only like me as a friend so I hooked up with someone who I knew for sure liked me. I know that wasn't right and may have affected his feelings toward me. I just feel like he just mind fu**ed me big time and i'm seriously left dumbfounded... sister,really? do you guys grab your sister's butt? Also don't know if he was just lying to my friend.. but IDK! HELP LOL

[basilandthyme]

If you are interested in a relationship with him, how about asking him if it's a possibility? You'll get nowhere unless one of you is brave enough to talk about the possibilities

[Kromat83]

I know that wasn't right and may have affected his feelings toward me.

I just feel like he just mind fu**ed me big time and i'm seriously left
dumbfounded... sister,really? do you guys grab your sister's butt?
Also don't know if he was just lying to my friend.. but IDK! HELP LOL

He seems to have a very flirty personality from the thought of it.

You need to be the guy in this situation, and tell him that you need to talk to him 1 on 1.
Tell him what is begging you and what you think of him, and don't
want to be considered what he thinks of you.

You also let this drag on way too long, 8 years and you said nothing ?
you had chances when he didn't have a girlfriend.

If i was ready and liked someone, i would tell them, because someone else could snag them,
and you just lost your chance, when there could have been an opportunity.

If he rejects your feelings and advances, then just look for someone else.