Dumped and cant move on

[aziz123]

Hey all,

I was recently involved in a casual relation with a women who is older than me. She had met me in a party and had come out of a relationship recently.
We instantly had sparks flying between us and however she made it clear to me that she is not looking for a relationship but rather just having fun. As weeks went by she would say the same thing and we were regularly having sex. Slowly she was very different by going out for dinners and cooking food for me at every opportunity. She would screen my phone and ask me about my plans and everything. I felt she probably likes me and i began to bring myself closer to her. Then she started to distance herself once i got close. Last week she send she wants to end this and continue to be friends with me and hang out and stuff but not get physical any more as she felt this was going into a relationship and she didnt want it as she was not in the right place in her head. I felt really hurt and dont know what to do?. I miss her and also at the same time want to get back at her and keep checking my phone in hope of her messages.

Please advice how I should deal with this

Cheers
Shihab

[michelle23]

Shes emotionally unavailable. You need to have zero contact with her and accept its over. You were a rebound. Yes it hurts but she was v honest with you from the start. When someone says they dont want a relationship-believe them and walk away

FWB doesnt work. One of you will get attached and hurt every time

[smackie9]

She enjoyed her relationship with you, but didn't see a true future in it...simple as that. She knew you were starting to get feelings so she had to let go to be fair to you. I suspect she caught herself heading into the serious direction, and knew it wasn't where she needed to be. So sorry for your loss. You will be fine. As the weeks go by there will be less hurt to deal with as you fill the void in with other things. You are best to stop checking your phone and get reconnected with your friends and spend time with them.